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Harmony in Marriage friends, and so they have to run their home like two friends. You should not create problems of this kind. Is this why people get their daughters married? How does it look for those who have acquired brides from India on the basis of their immigration status? So you can act in this manner? Is this behaviour becoming of you? What do you think? It does not suit us. Who would you call civilized? Is it the one who has conflicts at home or is it the one who has none? (29)
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There should not be even one clash in the home, and if it occurs you should solve it. As soon as you think the flames are going to ignite, throw water on it and cool it down. What is the advantage in living a life of clash? What is the meaning of it at all? There should be no clash in life. What are you going to divide and take with you upon death? Why have any clash when you have to eat and sleep together? You get very upset when someone says anything negative about your husband but you do not have any problems when you do the same. It should not be this way. Even the husband should not do this. If you have any clash, it will affect the life of your children. Clash in the home affects the growing minds of children. Healthy children with emotional maturity will grow from homes without clash. Otherwise a lot of problems will ensue for these children in future. (30)
Since the spontaneous expression of this Gnan within me twenty years ago and even twenty years prior to this Gnan, there has been no clash in my home life. It is not worth having any type of clash on any account in this world. (31)
So now think before you do it. Otherwise take Dada Bhagwan's name. I too take Dada Bhagwan's name before I do anything. As soon as you take Dada Bhagwan's name, your work will get done, as you would like it. (35)
Harmony in Marriage
Chapter 3
DIFFERENCES OF OPINION BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE
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Primarily we need to get rid of anger, pride, attachment, greed, and reduce conflicts due to differences of opinions. This is our goal. We have to let the light of knowledge guide us. How long can you remain in darkness? Have you seen the consequences of anger, pride, attachment, greed and discord?
Questioner: Yes, a lot.
Dadashri: Where, in a court?
Questioner: At home, in the courts, discord exists
everywhere.
Dadashri: What is the situation at home? There are only three of you at home, how can you have discord? You do not even have too many children. What possible reason for discord exists in your home of three persons?
Questioner: There is a lot of discord even amongst the three of us.
Dadashri: Is that so? Even amongst the three of you? Questioner: Life will not be fun if there were no
conflicts!
Dadashri: Oh ho ho! Is this the kind of fun you look for? If so, then why don't you have conflicts everyday? Which smart Alec has made this discovery?
Questioner: No Dada, we do not want this kind of fun. Dadashri: All these people are simply rationalizing their
