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Harmony in Marriage
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interaction means returning what was given. If someone says, you do not have any sense, then we should realise that it is pay back time of what we gave to him in the past life. If you understand this principle, then you have understood right worldly interaction. Right now nobody has right worldly interaction. The one who has understood right worldly interaction is free.
(145) Someone may say, 'Straighten her out!' If you try to straighten her, you yourself will become crooked. Therefore don't try to straighten your wife. Accept her the way she is. It is a different matter if you have a permanent relationship with her, but after this one life, she will be away somewhere, with someone else. You both have different times of death, both have different karma, nothing can be given or taken and nothing can be changed. Where she will go from here, who knows? You may straighten her up and she will end up going to someone else in the next life.
Only the one, who has improved himself, can improve others. Prakruti cannot change, nor can it be controlled by threats. It is because of all these threats that these worldly problems continue. Prakruti worsens with threats.
Chapter 9 ADJUST EVERYWHERE THROUGH COMMON
SENSE There is no difference between colliding with a wall and getting into an argument over differences of opinion with someone. It is essentially the same thing. Both are blind. A person bumps into a wall because he cannot see and a person gets into conflict because he cannot see. One cannot see what lies ahead of him, and the other cannot find a solution ahead of him so he is in disagreement. All these anger, pride, attachment and greed arise because of inability to see what lies ahead. This is how we should understand this. It is no fault of the wall, but of the person who is hurt by it. All these are walls only. All situations are like the wall. When you clash with a wall you do not go to find who was at fault. There is no need to prove who is right and who is wrong. (176)
You must think of those who are clashing with you, as walls. Look for the door, so even in the darkness you will be able to find your way out of it. You need to make it a rule not to clash with anyone.
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Chapter 10
If you are really concerned about improvement of your spouse, do not clash. Someone hard headed will improve them for sure.
How can you destroy someone who is under your protection? Your highest aim should be to protect them even if they are at fault. See how these Pakistani prisoners are protected, despite being prisoners here. Whereas this is your wife, is she not your own? Out of the home, people are cowardly and at home they fight.
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TWO SEPARATE DEPARTMENTS Men should not interfere in matters of women and, women should not interfere with matters of men. Each should stay within his or her department.
Questioner: What is the woman's department? What matters should the men not interfere in?
Dadashri: Cooking and running the household is a
