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Harmony in Marriage
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Harmony in Marriage being aware of this he thinks that it is love that is pulling him. Real love exists in the heart of a Gnani, the Awakened One.
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Pure Love is The Absolute Self. There is no other definition of the Absolute Self. That is the only location where final peace and harmony exists. That is the only place where the heart will rest. The heart will be soothed in two ways, through a woman, and through a Gnani. The woman will make you slip into the world. The Gnani will free you from the world and liberate you forever.
Love, which is free from anger, pride, greed, and attachment; which are beyond any identification with sex, which remains constant, which neither decreases nor increases, is called pure love. This is the love of the Gnani. This is where the heart rests.
(271) I am the embodiment of pure love. If you become intoxicated with this love, you will forget the world. Find this love, feel its intoxication and your world will run smoothly and harmoniously.
(272). Chapter 16 MARRIAGE IS A PROMISSARY NOTE -
"PROMISE TO PAY" Hiraba lost one of her eyes in 1943. She was suffering from glaucoma. The doctors tried to correct this condition and in the process damaged her eye.
(274) So people started thinking 'Now we have a new groom. Lets get him married again. At that time there were many prospective brides. The parents of a bride had only one wish, no matter what, no matter what the groom was like, they should
at least get their daughter married. In the year 1944 I was thirty-six years old. A Patel from Bhadran, (Dada's town), approached me; his wife's brother had a daughter. I asked him what he wanted; he said "You have just had a mishap.' I asked him why he had come to me. He replied 'First of all, Hiraba has lost her eye and in addition to that you do not have any children'. I told him, 'I don't have any children and I do not have any estate'. I do not have an estate in Baroda, which I can offer. If I had an estate, then at least it would be of use if I passed it down to the children. I have a little bit of land and a roof overhead. I asked 'Why are you asking me all this. The day I married Hiraba, I had made a promise to her. So if she has lost one eye, what can be done now? Even if she lost both her eyes, I would hold her hand and guide her. (275)
Questioner: After marriage, both of us got to know each other better, and now we feel that we made an error of judgment in choosing each other. We are incompatible with each other. Therefore, what should we do to become compatible with each other so that we can be happy?
Dadashri: Whatever you have said so far, every sentence is false. In the first sentence you said that you both got to know each other better after marriage. This is not true. You have not understood anything. If you did understand each other, then there would be no problems.
I stopped all discord in my marriage after eliminating my interfering intellect. Only then I came to really know my wife. When did I come to understand Hiraba? When I was sixty years old. I got married at the age of 15. For 45 years I maintained a very close observation, then only I came to understand what she was like.
Questioner: So you understood after you attained
