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Harmony in Marriage
Harmony in Marriage
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Dadashri: One may think that this is going to flare up now', but instead it fizzles out. Your mind starts screaming 'He's said so many things to me. So much has happened'. You say to yourself, "Go to sleep, why don't you? It will be all right. Your wound will heal." It heals right away. You have to pat your own back, so you will fall asleep. Did your wounds not heal?
(416) Questioner: When the quarrelling takes place, is it not the karmic baggage brought forward from the previous life coming out?
Dadashri: When this fighting is taking place, new karmic baggage is added for the next life. After taking this Gnan, only the old karmic baggage of past life comes out. New baggage is not filled.
Questioner: When my husband is quarrelling with me, and I am doing pratikraman, then?
Dadashri: There is no problem. Questioner: Then is the old karmic baggage coming
Dadashri: If he goes away, what will you do now? What if he says, 'I cannot stay with you'?
Questioner: I would call him back. I would fall to his feet and ask for his forgiveness and call him back.
Dadashri: Yes, call him back. Appease him, stroke his head, do whatever you have to, after that, things will settle down again. If a job can be done with just common sense, then use common sense. The next day, if he says "you were at my feet, begging me, were you not?' Then that is a different matter. You tell him "You were going away, you were acting like a mad person, that is why.' He thinks that her begging and pleading was forever. However, that act was done spontaneously to solve the immediate problem. (418)
Chapter 21
THE ESSENCE OF THE SEVEN STEPS TAKEN
DURING MARRIAGE CEREMONY
out?
Dadashri: Yes, all of it will come out. Wherever there is pratikraman, the baggage is coming out. Pratikraman is the only solution in this world.
(417) What will you do from now on if your husband gets angry?
Questioner: Settle disputes with equanimity. Dadashri: Is that so? Now you will not leave him? Questioner: No.
There is no key for this day and age that shows you how to live your life. Forget about moksh, but you need to know how to live your life, don't you? You just need to distinguish where each path leads, then decide which one you want to take. If you cannot decide, you must ask Dada and Dada will tell you if there are perils along a certain path. "These three paths have perils on them, and this one is without any danger, so travel this path with my blessings'. Married people will think that they are now trapped. Unmarried people feel that married people are blessed. Between the two, who will find the solution? It is hard to stay single in this world. Then why get married and be miserable? One may say they are not miserable; they are merely accumulating the experience. Is the worldly life real or not? Is there happiness in it? The worldly
