________________ 124 Harmony in Marriage Harmony in Marriage 125 Questioner: She'll say eat vedhami (flat bread stuffed with a sweet filling) at home and not to go out and eat pizza. Dadashri: Eat vedhmi joyfully. Eat everything. Eat dhokra, eat jalebi and eat whatever you like. Questioner: But we should not eat pizza at a hotel outside? Dadashri: Eat pizza? How can we eat pizza? We uphold the practice of purity in food. Despite this if you are really fond of it, eat several times, but gradually stop it. Do it very slowly and gradually. If you put a stop to it suddenly, that is wrong. You should eat along with everyone and then gradually stop it. Questioner: What should you do if your wife does not enjoy cooking? Dadashri: Change your preferences to other dishes. There are many other varieties of dishes. Change your preferences. If you don't like a certain flavour, then have her change the spices. That way you will like it. What is there to eat in pizza? So if you organize your life in this manner, your life will run smoothly. In the morning if you devote half hour to your prayers and devotional singing, then things will fall into place. You have received Gnan already, so now you have become wise. However, for others who do not have Gnan, will need to do some devotional rituals and singing. You are now on the right path. (507) This Akram Vignan does not interfere with your worldly interactive life. All other forms of spiritual knowledge have relative contempt for worldly life. This Science does not offend worldly life interactions in the least bit. It remains within the confines of its "reality' and does not offend anything at all. (503) The ultimate 'light' is where not even a single being is hurt in the slightest degree. Even your opponent will be pacified. If you have any opponents, they will say 'We both have differences of opinion, but at the same time I have a lot of respect towards him'. They will speak in this manner; there is opposition for sure. In the same token, there is opposition everywhere. There will always be opposition. There is a opposition to the Gnani as well as the fully enlightened Tirthankar as well. In the same manner, there is opposition everywhere. Not everyone can see the same viewpoint. Not everyone can come to the same thinking level. You should make your interaction filled with harmony at home. In your home your wife will feel that she will not be able to find another husband like this anywhere, and the husband will feel that he will never get a wife like her. When this happens your life together has been worth living. (514) Questioner: There is no parallel to your talks of spirituality, but also your talks of daily life interactions are second to none and extraordinary. Dadashri: It is like this, without understanding worldly interaction as it is, no one has been able to attain liberation. No matter how priceless the knowledge of the self is, without understanding worldly interactions, no one has attained liberation. This is because the world has to let you go. If it does not let you go, what will you do? You are indeed pure Soul. The world has to let go of you. You are complicating your interactions with the world. Why not solve all these interactions as quickly as possible? (515) Jai Sat Chit Anand
