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120
Harmony in Marriage
Harmony in Marriage
121
(497)
Do this with any God as your witness, then everything will finish, otherwise what will happen? By seeing that person as the wrong doer for example if a woman keeps looking at a man and keeps seeing his faults, then her hatred and contempt for him will increase. Fear arises as a consequence of contempt. When you feel contempt for a person, you will also fear that person. The moment you see that person, you feel afraid. Recognize this as a consequence of inner contempt. So to be free from contempt ask forgiveness repeatedly from the pure Soul of the person you have contempt for. This contempt will stop in two days. The method of pratikraman is as follows. All these are the results of my own errors. I am asking the Lord within you to forgive me for all the hurt I have caused you. Then everything will be washed away.
Questioner: If one wants to follow the path of religion, then we have to leave the home and the world. For the purpose of religion, this is good, but it hurts the people of the home. Is this not selfish to renounce the home life for one's own benefit?
Dadashri: No. First you will have to fulfil your responsibilities with the people in the home. After you fulfil that account, then they will be happy and tell you to go without any reservations. However, do not do anything that would hurt them because you cannot breach that agreement. (494)
Questioner: I feel like leaving this material world, what should I do?
Dadashri: Do you admit that there was a day when you had desired this material world?
Questioner: At that time I did not have this Gnan, now I have this Gnan. It makes all the difference.
Dadashri: Yes, but now that you have entered it, you have
to find a way out of it. You cannot just run away from it. (495)
Questioner: Precious time is passing away.
Dadashri: Death is inevitable. You are going to die even as you insist that she is yours. She is not mine and if she goes early, then you have to sit alone. If she was really yours, then you both should depart together, should you not? At times a rare woman becomes a Sati, and even then what path will she take and what path will he take? The future life forms are dependant upon each individual's karmic account. Some will come back into the human form and some will go into the animal kingdom. Some will go to the celestial form. The Sati will say that if I die with you, I will be born with you. However, that does not happen. This is all foolishness. There is no such thing as a husband and a wife. All these are arrangements made by society.
Questioner: This man is asking if there are no rows or quarrels in a marriage, then will they be able to live together again in the next life?
Dadashri: In this very life there is no harmony together. In this life only there are divorces, so why are you even talking about the coming life? There is no such love at all. Those who will be together in the next life have harmony in their current life. There is a lot of love in their current life. They do not see any faults in others, at all. Even if mistakes are made, they do not see them as such, there is this kind of love here.
Questioner: If their present is filled with such love, then will the same people come together in their next life?
Dadashri: Yes they can, certain lives are such that they will. If their entire life there has been no quarrelling, then they will come together again.
(499)
