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ours? They too breast feed their young, and lick their calves don't they?
(484) You are a pure Soul and your worldly interactions should be superficial. You have to remain in the 'home department (your real Self) and remain superficial in the foreign department (your relative self). Superficial means no tendencies to get involved, engrossed in thoughts, speech and acts. Remain dramatic. This drama has to be acted out exactly. You have to laugh in this drama, at the time of profit and cry at the time of loss. You have to make a display of the right emotion in the drama. You have to act out the part but do not become involved internally. We have to maintain casual acquaintances and connections only. Don't people say, my relation with this gentleman are casual? That is the kind of relation you have to keep with the whole world. The one who knows how to keep this kind of a relationship, become a Gnani. Even with your body you have to keep a similar relationship. I have that kind of a relationship with everyone, but people still tell me, you keep very good relationship with us.' I go through all the worldly interactions while staying as the Self.
(491) Questioner: Is it possible that success of a husband is due to the good karma of the wife? Don't people say that Laxmi signifying wealth or anything good that happens to you is due to the meritorious karma of the wife? Can that happen?
Dadashri: It is just to calm an abusive husband. They tell him 'Just look at the good fortune of your wife. Why are you abusing her? You are able to eat because of her good karma. That is how everything got started. Each living being eats due to its own karma. Did you understand? However, you have to say these things, only then will things settle down. Each and everyone enjoy fruits of their own merit karma and
the suffering is also due to their own bad karma. In reality no living being ever interferes with another living being. There is not an iota of interference.
Questioner: Suppose if one does a good deed, for example a man does some charitable work and his wife supports this. Do both of them reap the benefits?
Dadashri: Of course! The person who is the doer, and the one who encourages, and the person supporting the task that is happening, all these people who are involved, will get the benefits. If you tell someone 'do this, there is a person who actually does it. You become the encourager. Another person around you will support you. All will bind merit karma. The person doing it gets fifty percent and the remaining fifty percent is distributed between the other two; the one who encourages and the one who supports it.
(492) Questioner: What should one do to be free from the relations created from past life?
Dadashri: You are living with a person because of your past life account. When you simply do not like living with the person to whom you are married, you have no choice. This is your account and you cannot escape it. What do you do then? You should keep relations with that person on the outside, but from within you should do pratikraman in their name, because this is all a result of your atikraman (actions of above normal activity, usually associated with either attachment or abhorrence) from your past life. What were the causes? The answer is with that person you did atikraman, to the result of which has come now in this life, so therefore do pratikraman, and the accounts will be settled. Therefore ask for forgiveness for all wrong doing.
