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Dadashri: It is through our pratikramans. Through aalochana (recalling mistake), pratikramam (repent for wrong doing) and pratyakahan (decision not to do it again).
Questioner: That is all? Isn't there any other solution?
Dadashri: There is no other solution. Through penance you bind good karma. By destroying the root cause, you get the result. What does the law of settling with equanimity state? One should make sure that under no circumstance should there be any binding of vengeance with the other person. Free yourself from vengeance.
Questioner: How does the binding of vengeance take place? How does the seed of vengeance of endless lives are planted?
Dadashri: You will not bind vengeance with a dead man or a dead woman. The reason for vengeance is that these are living beings.
Questioner: Why does that happen?
Dadashri: It is because of difference of opinions. You may want to go to a movie whereas she may want to go to a play. The timing does not match. So marry only if the timings match. (467)
All the happiness that you have derived from this dependency on sex as a pleasure vehicle is all borrowed happiness; it is on loan to you, and because it is a loan, you will have to re-pay. (468)
You are not enjoying the happiness of the Soul but instead you have asked for happiness from the body. There is no problem if the happiness derived is from the Soul, but you have borrowed from the body and so you will have to pay it
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back. This is a loan. Whatever pleasure you derived from that loan, you will have to repay by an equivalent amount of suffering. Whatever has been borrowed from the body will have to be paid back to the body.
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Some people tell me that they are made to beg for sex by their wives. I tell them, 'you fool! What do you expect when your dignity is gone? By doing this you have nothing left. Smarten up still and become a Yogi (ascetic).
One woman would make her husband prostrate in front of her four times before she would let him touch her. You imbecile! Why not commit suicide instead? Why don't you take a terminal dip in the ocean? At least the ocean is straight forward, and there won't be any problems there. You prostrate four times for this? (470)
Questioner: In the past life I had clashed with her. This life she has, clashes with me. One has to find a way out of this? What is the solution?
Dadashri: There is a solution for this, but people are mentally weak. Stop the inclination towards sex. Then everything else will stop automatically. All this continues because of the inclination for sexual pleasure. (473)
Questioner: Now how can we do this? How can one stop this?
Dadashri: Conquer sex.
Questioner: It is because we are not able to conquer sex that we are here at your feet.
Dadashri: Sex for so many years. Sex in old age too? Wherever you see it is sex, sex and sex.
