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because the men are telling her over and over again, she thinks that if he says so, it must be true. If you were to tell her she is very nice, there is no other woman like her, even if she is ugly she will believe you. If you tell her that she is very beautiful, then she believes herself to be beautiful. Men have kept women as women. All along in this game, the women in their mind believe that they are making fools out of men. In this way, men get their lust satisfied after which they leave them. (449)
Questioner: It is not written that a woman will remain a woman for many lives. She does not understand this fact and is not aware of the fact that there is a solution to this.
Dadashri: If this is solved, then a woman actually is a man. Alas, these women do not know the root cause. Furthermore, they enjoy their role as women. They are interested in this. They get pleasure out of it so they remain there. No one knows the way out of there, so no one can show you. It is only a Sati woman that knows. Besides her husband, she does not have any thoughts about any other men, even if her husband was to die immediately or leave her. She would believe that man to be the only husband. Deceit in these satis melts away.
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you understand a little bit? On the way to liberation, every woman has to become either a Sati, or a man. Men are very naive; they will do whatever is asked of them. Women have taken advantage of all men. Of all the women, only a Sati would not do that. Satis consider their husbands as their lord.
Questioner: You see a very few people with this kind of a life.
Dadashri: How can there be such lives in this Kaliyug (current time cycle of lack of unity in thoughts, speech and acts)? Even in Satyug(time cycle of truth and unity of thought, speech and acts) there are usually very few Satis. Now in Kaliyug how can there be any?
(461) So it is not the women's fault, women are like goddesses. Soul is Soul, whether it be a man or a woman, the only difference is of the packing. Being a woman is an effect, a result of a previous life cause. That effect of the woman works on the Soul due to ignorance. With knowledge of the Self this effect of the woman does not work on the Soul. This is liberation. Woman is a shakti (power, energy). In this country many women have been great in government and politics. Imagine her potential in the field of religion. They have the power to liberate the world. Women are a store of energy for the salvation of the world. She has enough energy to achieve her own liberation and help others achieve the same. (463)
Chapter 23 WHEN SEX STOPS LOVE STARTS When does a married life become radiant? It is when they both have the fever (Dada is referring to sexual relationship) and, only then they should take the medicine (have
When one starts to practice becoming a sati, then her deceitfulness will begin to disappear. Those main Satis are born as satis. So, they are not tainted from the past life. Whereas you have stains from the past life and so the next time you are born a man. However, having been born a man, not all men are equal. Many men are like women. They have a few characteristics of a woman e.g. deceit. If this deceit disappears either by becoming a sati or Self-realisation by meeting a Gnani Purush he attains liberation. By being a Sati, everything is cleared, and then he or she attains moksh. Do
