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Dadashri: Perhaps some people, but how much? If you ask the people in his home, they will say he stinks. He may have a fragrance outside but at home they will say 'don't even talk about him'. So this is not called fragrance.
Life should be spent in helping others. Does this incense stick enjoy its own fragrance, when it is burning? (431)
This world is a museum, and what is the requirement of that museum? When you enter the museum, it says eat and drink whatever you want, enjoy what you want to but do it inside. You are not to take anything outside. Do not fight. Do not make any attachments or abhorrence with anyone. People, however, enter and get married. You fool! Why did you get married? It is because you developed an attachment and you got married. On your way out, this will become a problem. Then he will complain, I am bound. It is still not a problem if you go inside and follow the rules. You can eat, drink and enjoy. If you happen to become married tell your wife this is a museum, you should not get attached or develop any ill feelings. As long as it is convenient, have fun but at the end we should leave without any attachments, positive or negative. There should be no negative feelings, abhorrence toward her, even if she goes out with another man tomorrow. This museum is like this. Whatever has happened has happened, now you cannot get rid of this museum. We are born in a country of high morals. Therefore, marriage and everything else must be as it was meant to be, orderly and just. (434)
Chapter 22
DIFFERENCES IN THE INTRINSIC QUALITIES OF MEN AND WOMEN
Questioner: Can women attain knowledge of the Self?
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Can they achieve a state of Self-realisation and enlightened worldview?
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Dadashri: Really it is not possible, but my science makes it so that they can become Self-realised. This is because the prakruti (complex of thoughts, speech and acts) itself is such that it is not conducive for knowledge of the Self. Women have much higher amount of deceit and moha (that which makes you forget your real nature; that which makes you forget after you suffer) in their prakruti. This prevents them from attaining knowledge of the Self as easily as men.
Questioner: Then isn't that injustice by vyavasthit(scientific circumstantial evidence)?
Dadashri: No, she will become a man in her next life and then will attain moksh. This common knowledge that women cannot attain liberation is not entirely untrue. It is true when you take into account the nature of a woman. The elements of deceit and moha simply impede Self-realisation. It is untrue when one says that a woman is simply never ever going to be liberated. She becomes a man and then attains moksh. There is no law that women will remain women in the next life. When will she become like a man? It is when she remains in competition with a man in this life and her ego and anger continues to increase, and the deceit and moha in her decrease. Men's prakruti (inherent nature) is of ego and anger, and women's prakruti is of maya (attachment) and lobh (greed). This is how it has been going on in nature but our Akram Vignan says that women too can achieve moksh because this science awakens the Soul and many women are such that they constantly remember Dada twenty-four hours a day.
Many women in India and in America have Dada on their mind, for twenty-four hours a day.
