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Harmony in Marriage
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Harmony in Marriage interaction is to settle all accounts. Have you settled any accounts yet?
The relationship between a man and a woman is like an oil mill. In India, there are small oil mils in the villages, where the ox is made to go round and round turning a mill to crush and extract oil from castor oil or other seeds. The ox's view is restricted by blinkers to facilitate the process of repetitive walking round and round the mill. Man represents the bullock and the woman represents the bullock-master that runs the oil mills. They go round and round. The blinkered ox thinks that he must have covered a hell of a long distance after a day of walking. But when the blinkers are removed, the bullock sees that he is at the same place where he started. Then what does the ox-master, the woman do? She feeds him a piece of oil cake and so the bullock is pleased and starts working again. Similarly, here this woman feeds her man a piece of handavo (baked savoury dish) and the man eats peacefully and the whole labour of life resumes early next morning.
It has become difficult now to pass these days. When the husband comes home, he will complain about the pain in his chest: the children will come and tell him that they have failed their exams. When the husband has a pain in his chest, she wonders what will happen if he has a heart attack. She will be overcome with all kinds of negative thoughts. These thoughts would not leave her in peace.
(420) When would it have been worth marrying? When, out of hundreds of thousands only one got married. What is the big deal when everyone marries? There is a big college (Dadashri's Science of worldly interaction) for women and men where they can learn how to conduct worldly dealings after marriage, but these people get married without getting
any education in it.
(421) If someone insults you there is no problem in accepting the insult, but you have to keep that insult in your awareness and remind yourself 'is this life meant for such insults?' There is no problem with insults, there is no need for that which elevates neither the ego nor that which defeats the ego, but is our life meant for insults? Shouldn't that awareness be there?
(426) As long as the wife is sulking, he would say, 'Oh God, please help me. When she comes back to talk to him, he forgets everything. Then God and everything else is set aside. How intense is the puzzle? Is the suffering going to heal this way?
What is the world? Troubles. Even this body is a worldly trouble. Should there be any desire for such troubles? It is a wonder that there is any desire for this. A fishnet is different and this net is different. With a fishnet, you can at least cut your way through and escape, but you cannot escape from here. Even when you die you do not escape. (427)
Gnani Purush shows you a way to escape this net of the world. He shows you the path to moksh (liberation) and puts you on that track so that you feel that you have been liberated from the problems of external forces forever.
How can you call this a life? How lovely should life be! Each and every person should emit a fragrance. There would be praises sung all around of how wonderful a person is, how nicely he talks, how wonderful his conduct is. Do you see this kind of a reputation around you? Do you see people with such fragrance around you?
Questioner: Rarely do some people emits such a fragrance.
