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Harmony in Marriage
Harmony in Marriage
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home because they get tired of their wives, what is that?
Dadashri: No, why should we become a run away? We are pure Soul, what is the need for us to become a run away? We have to settle the matter with equanimity with her.
Questioner: How can we settle? Should we take it as a past due account?
Dadashri: You cannot settle by just doing that. Settling with equanimity means you have to make a phone call with the Soul of the other person. You have to notify her Soul. You have to admit and accept the mistakes you have made to that Soul. So you have to do heavy repentance and ask for forgiveness.
Questioner: If a person insults us, even then do we have to do pratikraman acceptance of mistake, repentance of mistake and avowal not to repeat the mistake in future)?
Dadashri: Do pratikraman only when he insults you, not when he praises you. When you do pratikraman, feelings of hatred for that person would not occur at all. On the contrary, you will have a positive effect on him. The first step is that you will come to experience that you do not have any abhorrence or any negative feelings for him. Later on the other person will also feel the positive effects of your pratikraman.
Questioner: Does it reach his Soul?
Dadashri: The faster you want to construct a home, the more bricklayers you need. It is fine if you cannot do pratikraman of those who are outsiders, but you have to do a lot of pratikramans for all those around you and those who are close to you, all the members of the family. For the people in the house, you should keep the intentions that "These people are born close to me, they live together with me and that some day they should take benefit of this wonderful science of liberation.
A man once came to me and said that "Dada I got married but I do not like my wife. I asked him the reason for not liking her. He said she limps, she has a limp when she walks. So I asked him "Does your wife like you?" He replied "Dada, I am a likeable person! I am handsome, educated, I earn and I do not have any deformity. I told him,. Then the fault is yours only. What kind of a mistake did you make to deserve a limping wife like her and what good karma did she do that she got a great husband like you? Listen here, it is all your own doing that is coming back to you. So then why are you looking at faults in her? Suffer the fruits of your past mistakes with equanimity and do not make any new mistakes. The man understood this and his life that was on the verge of ruin became harmonious.
(225) Chapter 13 HUSBANDS! ACT ACCORDING TO DADA'S VISION
Dadashri: Yes, it definitely reaches. His Soul will nudge his pudgal (complex of thoughts, speech and acts), "There is a phone call for you! This pratikraman of ours is for the aggression of thoughts, speech, and acts.
Questioner: Does one have to do a lot of pratikramans?
Questioner: What should I do when the wife says that she doesn't want my parents to live with us, and that I am not to call them?
Dadashri: Then achieve your work through making her understand. Do it through a democratic process. Call her
