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Harmony in Marriage discord if you do not have an opinion. After marriage can you keep an opinion, which differs, from hers?
Questioner: One should not keep it, but it does happen. Dadashri: So get rid of the differing opinion. Is it right for you to keep differences? Otherwise you shouldn't have married. Since you did marry, you should become one. (44)
So you don't even know how to live life! You live a life of so many worries. Are you a single person? No, I am married he says. So despite having a wife your worries have not stopped? Should your worries not be over? I have thought about this very deeply. Shouldn't people think on this also? This world is so vast and yet one believes that whole world is within his room. He simply does not see the insignificance of fights within the home in the context of the vast expanse of this world. It would still be acceptable if he believes that his room is the whole world, but even there he bullies his wife! (47)
Questioner: When there are two vessels, which clash there will be a sound and then it will die down.
Dadashri: You must enjoy it when the noise of these vessels occurs. This noise sounds like, 'you do not have an ounce of common sense! Do you like it?
Questioner: But she will also say that 'I do not like anyone, other than you'.
Dadashri: Yes, she will say that too!
Questioner: But the utensils in the house are bound to make noise.
Dadashri: How can you afford the noise of these utensils every day? You accept this because you do not
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understand. Those who are aware of the real nature of this world would not be able to sleep with even a single difference of opinion. these live vessels, husbands or wives have vibrations. They keep on having these vibrations the whole nightlong like, 'He is awkward, he is useless and he deserves to be thrown out!' The lifeless vessels do not create vibrations. Without any understanding, our people come to accept that wherever there is a married couple there will be discord. You fool! Are we all utensils that we should make noise? Nobody has ever seen this Dada get into discord any day. Why all this noise? All this noise is ultimately harmful to us only. We are responsible for these conflicts. Is it ever someone else's responsibility? If you bang on the dinning table, because your tea is not ready, who is in danger? Instead it is better to remain sitting like a dummy. If you get your cup of tea good and well, otherwise just go to work. What's wrong with that? Even the cup of tea has its timing does it not? Every event has a time and place. This world is exact. Nothing happens outside the laws of nature. That is why I have said Vyavasthit (scientific circumstantial evidence). When the time comes for you to get your tea, you will get your tea, regardless of your temper tantrums. You do not need to bang on anything. If you do not raise any negative vibrations your tea will be ready and waiting for you. Even if you create negative vibrations the tea will be waiting for you. But by creating vibrations you will add to your account and some day she will remind you, 'That day you banged on the table'. (49)
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One does not have the ability to solve the problems of discord with wife or children. When these clashes occur he gets deeper into confusion.
Questioner: The husband insists on his wife to
