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Harmony in Marriage
Harmony in Marriage
irresponsible behaviour.
What is the cost of discord? Is it expensive or cheap? Do you have a lot or little discord?
Questioner: Sometimes there is less discord, sometimes more. It is expensive.
Dadashri: Some days you celebrate and some days you quarrel. Do you enjoy them? Or does it ruin the fun? (39)
Questioner: That is how the world revolves.
Dadashri: No, these are words of excuse for the people. They blame it on the world but they do not admit that it is their own weakness.
Questioner : It is definitely the weakness and that is why all these problems occur.
Dadashri : Yes, that is it, people try to hide their weakness by saying this is how the world revolves. It is because they hide it, their weakness remains. What does that weakness say? Until you acknowledge my presence, I will not leave.
Questioner: But discord happens at home. Is it not part of worldly life?
Dadashri : Our people fight daily and then they say "this is what happens in a family. You fool! This attitude hinders progress. Investigate. Why does it happen? Why does it happen? Why do you speak in this manner? What is it that is happening? You have to investigate this.
(40) Whenever you have discord in the home, what medicine do you use? Do you keep a bottle of medicine?
Questioner: There is no medicine for differences of
opinions between husband and wife.
Dadashri: Eh? What are you saying? So then you don't say a word, you're in one room and she doesn't say a word in another room, is that how you go to sleep, by not speaking with each other? Without applying the medicine? Then how will it be cured? How can a wound heal without any treatment? You tell me, if you do not apply medicine to it, then how would it heal. That wound will not have healed even in the morning. Even in the morning, she will sulk as she serves you a cup of tea. Even you will realise that the wound from the previous night has not healed. Does that happen or not? All this talk is not outside of experience. We are all the same! So why does she behave as if the wound has not healed even after a full night?
(41) Everyday that wound remains. It would not heal. It leaves behind a dent, does it not? The dents will be there, so don't allow these dents to occur. Because if you create these dents right now, then in your old age, your wife will give you dents. At the moment she will not say anything, she will think in her mind that 'He is very strong so let him be'. But later on, when the time comes, she will take revenge. Instead conduct your interactions in such a manner that you will love each other. Everyone makes mistakes. What is the point of creating clash when mistakes occur? If you want to create clash, why don't you go and do it with someone powerful and stronger so that your answer will be given right away? Here you will never get your answer. So you should both understand this: You should both remember that Dada has warned us to avoid clash and discord.
(42) Do not keep any opinion. Especially after marriage why should there be any difference of opinion? There will be no
