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Pratikraman
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Pratikraman in Varying Situations
The Reaction of Hurt in the Other Person
Questioner: How can I tell if the other person is hurt?
Dadashri: You will immediately see it on his face. The sparkle in his eyes will have disappeared and his face will appear gloomy. Of course, you will be able to tell whether or not he has been affected. It will be all too obvious. Questioner: Yes.
(174) Dadashri: Man definitely has the ability to know what has occurred to the other person.
own way, his mind will react in the same way with as much hostility.
Questioner: Does that mean that we have to continue doing pratikraman and will all our habits go away gradually?
Dadashri: Everything goes away with pratikraman.
Questioner: The stronger the inner intent (bhaav) is behind the pratikraman, that much...
Dadashri: No, it has to be done with true heart (heartily): whether you know the words or not, that is not important-it has to be done heartily.
Bankruptcy of Prakruti Dadashri: For some people, if someone interferes in their business, they only feel satisfied when they say things like, 'You have no sense, you do this and you do that,' etc. Then they sleep soundly at night.
Questioner: Why does that happen?
Dadashri: It is a kind of ego that takes pleasure in, 'I let him have it!' You used to do the same, did you not?
Questioner: But I did lots of pratikraman of all those people.
Dadashri: That is why everything is resolved. Questioner: Why does he not do pratikraman?
Dadashri: Pratikramans have not commenced for him at all! Questioner: Why not?
(176) Dadashri: He is still in the bankrupt state. His debt has not reduced at all, has it?
Questioner: What debt? What kind of debt?
Questioner: But some people are so good at hiding their true feelings that you cannot tell by their expressions.
Dadashri: Even then you will know that you have said some hurtful things, and that it is bound to hurt him. For that you should do pratikraman. If you said something hurtful, will you not know if you hurt him?
Questioner: Yes, I would know it.
Dadashri: You are not doing pratikraman for him. You are actually doing it to change your previous opinions. What is pratikraman? It reverses your past opinions. By doing pratikraman, the effect your words may have had on him is erased. Just keep in mind that you want to settle your interaction with him with equanimity and, as a result, his mind will also improve. If, however, you are determined to only get it your
