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lashed out, and we had a quarrel. And then, despite the silence, the inner turmoil continued. Can I do just one pratikraman to cover everything or do I have to do individual pratikraman for each fault?
Dadashri: Do pratikraman wholeheartedly two to three times and, if done in the exact method, everything will be resolved. Do it this way: Say, 'Dear Dada Bhagwan, a very grave mistake has occurred. Severe anger has taken place. How much hurt has it caused the other person? I am sincerely repenting for it and asking for his forgiveness with You as my witness. I am sincerely asking for forgiveness from his pure Soul.'
Who is asking for forgiveness? It is not to be asked by You. 'Chandulal' has to ask for forgiveness. The one who does arikraman has to do pratikraman. Arikraman is never done by You.
Collective Pratikraman Questioner: When prolonged arguments occur, the result is a greater rift within and aloofness from the other person. Sometimes I do a few pratikramans, and in other instances I have to do it five to six times. The question is, if I just do pratikraman once, will it suffice?
Dadashri: Do as many as you can individually. If it is not possible, do them collectively. If you come across too many at once, do them all together and state that you are doing them collectively, because you cannot do pratikraman for each and every one of your mistakes. Address your pratikraman to Dada Bhagwan and the message will reach him.
Apology in Person Questioner: Dada, many times it so happens that when I make a mistake, or become angry towards someone, from within I feel restless and uneasy. I know that I have done something wrong, but I do not have the courage to ask for forgiveness
form him directly
Dadashri: You should not even ask for forgiveness in that way. On the contrary, he will misuse the apology. He will say, 'Yes, now you have come to your senses.' That is how everything is. People are not noble these days. These people are not worthy of direct apologies. There may be ten in a thousand who will give in even before you ask them for forgiveness. Do you understand? Otherwise, he will say, "See, I have been telling you for a long time. You did not believe me, did you? Now you have come to your senses, haven't you? That is why you should ask for forgiveness, from his Shuddhatma, from within.
That is Not Your Lookout (Concern)
Questioner: When I become very angry with someone, I do instant pratikraman for that mistake. Does the effect of the anger from my side, continue to linger within that person, or does it stop as soon as I do pratikraman?
Dadashri: You should not concern yourself with what is occurring within the other person. Just keep washing your 'clothes and keep them clean. He came in front of you because of his and your past life account. Anger occurred even though you do not want it to. Anger arises against your wishes, does it not? Questioner: Yes. Anger occurs.
(256) Dadashri: Then do not worry about that; continue doing pratikraman. Make 'Chandulal' do the pratikraman and he will handle the situation however it needs to be handled. If you become too concerned about it, you will ruin everything. Your job is to remain aware of the mistakes that occur.
Dealing with Your Employees Questioner: When we are very angry with someone, we begin to talk negatively about him in his absence.
