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[16] Revenge of Enmity Is Unbearable
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them sticky. What can we do when he makes them sticky by rubbing on oil?
Still, one thing is certain, that if it comes down to someone in the family, then You have to tell 'Chandulal' to keep doing pratikraman for him. This current friction is the result of the karmic account of the past life, but the reaction of the ego is not. This' gnan knowledge (that clash is a result but egoism is not), is a result and, therefore, tell him to do pratikraman, because it is all from the past.
Questioner: Yes, it does.
Dadashri: Have you experienced that? Therefore, because enmity increases with enmity, you should ask for forgiveness in whatever way you can and become free.
Enmity Requires Many Pratikramans
Questioner: When I do pratikraman, I get over my enmity (veyr); but what about the other person? What if he still feels animosity towards me?
Dadashri: What did it matter to Lord Mahavir when those around him felt so much attachment towards him? Some even hated him. Nothing sticks to the Vitarag. A Vitarag goes around without putting oil on his body' (nothing will stick to them), whereas others go around with 'oil on their bodies' so all the dirt will stick to them. Do you want to remain in the Agnas? Then nothing in the world will stick to you. So remain in the Agnas, do you understand? Then it will not stick to you. If you rub 'oil' on, then it will stick, will it not?
When there is stickiness' (raag-dwesh of the body complex), it is called oil - and dirt will stick to it, but how can it stick if there is no stickiness? People do raag-dwesh (attachment-abhorrence) even with me. They also praise me. When someone does not agree with me, he may even curse me and say negative things. One can say that because he is independent and free to do so. And the responsibility of going to a lower life form is his own. He does as he pleases through his own responsibility. How can we say no? He will strike you too! What will he not do? What can ignorance not do? And the one with understanding will not take on any liability. Will an attorney not be scared of breaking the law?
Questioner: So the attachment-abhorrence (raag-dwesh) there are, are they associated with an individual?
Dadashri: They are one's own. He himself has made
Questioner: There is animosity between myself and another person. There has been attachment and abhorrence between us. While I have managed to get rid of my enmity and abhorrence, the other person still continues to harbor deep enmity. Does this mean that in my next life, he will come to settle the account? After all, he is the one perpetuating enmity. (288)
Dadashri: That is correct. He has been more hurt than you. You may forget his pain, but if he does not forget and he carries this on to the next life, you have to do pratikraman for it. The pratikraman is for the extra intensity of the atikraman, do you understand?
Questioner: If his enmity goes away, does that mean that my pratikraman has been effective?
Dadashri: Yes, with pratikraman, his animosity towards you will lessen. With each pratikraman, a layer of karma is shed. Karma comes in layers, like onions. You will have to do as many pratikraman as the number of layers you have caused. Do you understand?
Questioner: Yes. Many people used to do raag-dwesh towards Lord Mahavir but it did not touch Him.
Dadashri: They did endless raag-dwesh. They also used to hit Him. They used to hit Him and they also did raag towards
