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[8] Freedom from the Chains of Life-After-Life Accounts
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Questioner: That is correct.
Dadashri: There, you can get away with everything because people approach everything heartily. So you have to take into consideration where things are likely to go wrong and proceed.
You Should Know the Method
Questioner: I am talking about the problem that when one's belief is destroyed, his ego feels hurt.
Dadashri: If you do not know how to break his belief and if he feels hurt, then you should not even try.
I only break people's belief, such that, 'No, You are not 'Chandubhai.' 'Chandubhai' is not your real Self.' In this way, his greatest belief from countless past lives begins to fracture and collapse further. There should be 'exactness.' Otherwise, it will hurt him a lot.
I destroy the belief about God. Therefore, if I tell him that 'there is no God,' then it would be a disaster. Then I should be able to explain and make him understand from which perspective there is God and from which perspective there is not. That should all be there, and I should also explain to him for whom there is a God and for whom there is not. I would explain to him in every way without hurting him even in the slightest. None of 'our' 'weapons' hurt. You should especially know how to use your weapon so that the other person does not get hurt. Your weapon may hurt you but you should make sure it does not hurt him.
Questioner: That is true.
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Dadashri: That is called an 'operation.' If there is some weakness within, then you should get rid of it. New forgiveness should be procured from the other person. The other person should not be hurt at all; life should be lived with this goal in
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Pratikraman
We have not come here to inflict pain on anyone. Should anything occur, may we give happiness. That is our goal. No one should get hurt. Therefore, it is due to our lack of understanding that the other person gets hurt. Furthermore, the sense that 'the mistake is his' must not be there within you. When the term 'by his mistake' arises in the slightest, know that he is only the complex of mistakes. It is you who have taken up the task of improving him. So then improve him without hurting him.
Where Dislike Occurs the Moment You Set Eyes on That Person
Questioner: Sometimes dislike occurs the moment we set eyes on a person, the moment we see his behavior.
Dadashri: That is because you have an old habit and that habit will not refrain from pushing you. You still get influenced by it. But you should apply our Gnan to it, should you not? The habit is from the past and so it will continue to arise, but if you keep applying our Gnan to it, it will gradually become still. The old habits have to come to an end, don't they?
Questioner: My question is, why does it occur only for certain people? Is it due to some contemptuous tendencies that arise or something like that?
Dadashri: It will only come if there is a karmic debt from the past, right? But today it is of no consequence. Today we are looking at his Shuddhatma (the Self). That day you had a dislike for his external packing - the relative self. The interactions were at the 'packing' level - the relative level. Today you have nothing to do with that packing. He has to face the consequences of his packing. Before, you used to believe that he is 'Chandulal' and that is why you had scorn towards him.
Questioner: That is based on an opinion, is it not?
