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[9] Pratikraman in Varying Situations
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Dadashri: But even so, he continues to hurt and harbor an opinion about you.
Questioner: Yes, it has not gone away for him and some of mine (opinions) still remain within; sometimes I feel how sensitive he is to take the little I said so seriously. Even this little thought occurs to me, so that much weakness remains in getting rid of the opinions.
Dadashri: Even if the opinion remains within, you would not know of it.
Questioner: That is true, I cannot know. This is very subtle. So is it better to do his pratikraman for our safe side?
[10] When Conflicts Arise
Dadashri: Such cases are very rare in this world. Therefore, turn it around. Just look: he does not even come anymore. Even though You Are the Non-doer, Others
Get Hurt
When our mahatmas talk about doing something, they are saying it in discharge bhaav (effect of intent from his past life). It is like when an actor says, 'I am going to kill you,' in a play, when he says this, he is not liable for violence (himsa).
Questioner: I remain as the non-doer but whatever karma 'Chandubhai' does, some people around him get hurt and they believe that I verily am the one who has caused the hurt. So when I am affected by that, what should I do?
Dadashri: I have already told you that if 'Chandubhai' does atikraman against anyone, if he hurts anyone, then You have to tell 'Chandubhai', 'Do pratikraman in the name of that person. If there is no atikraman, then nothing needs to be done.
Unsettled Accounts of Past Life
Questioner: Conflict occurs only with those with whom we have a karmic connection (roonanubandha), right? Conflicts will not occur with others, will they?
(189) Dadashri: Conflict occurs only with those with whom we have past life accounts (hisaab).
Questioner: I do not have conflict with anyone anymore. I am able to make sure of that everywhere else, but with her, although the conflict has reduced significantly, every six to eight months I am not able to do inner penance (aantarik tapa); I end up saying things to her.
Dadashri: There is no problem with that. You have no choice but to settle that. She has to discharge her karma, you have to discharge your karma, and that is precisely where the conflict occurs. So you cannot attribute the mistake to just one person; both are at mistake for sure. One may be forty percent at mistake, or sixty percent, or thirty percent, etc. Nevertheless, both the parties are at mistake to some degree.
Questioner: Then we are able to come to a closure (samadhan) on the issue within two to five minutes.
Dadashri: That will occur.
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Questioner: Now if, at that time, I am able to do parakram (extraordinary spiritual effort) and settle that
