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came out; it has been washed away purified. 'Clear cut!' It is like this, the mind has to be cleared.
Collective Pratikraman
Questioner: Do we need to do pratikraman more often or would it suffice to do it just once for karma created during a prolonged period of conflict where there was an exchange of a lot of words?
Dadashri: Do as many individual pratikraman as you can, and then do collective pratikraman. If too many pratikramans accumulate, do them all at once: 'Dear Dada Bhagwan, I am doing a cumulative pratikraman for the mistakes I have committed.' Then it will be all over.
Conflicts Are Natural But Grudge and Separation Are Not
Questioner: This discussion about the ego is very good. It is applicable to situations at home, in any organizations or institutions. Even when doing Dada's work, there is conflict between egos; it is applicable there, too. We need closure, satisfactory resolution (samadhan), there too, do we not? (192)
Dadashri: Yes, you will need a closure, will you not? The one with Gnan will attain closure, but what closure can the one without Gnan take? A separation will start to occur there; the mind will start to create a separation with him. Here the mind will not create any separation.
Questioner: But, Dada, one should not get into conflict, should one?
Dadashri: Getting into conflict is part of one's nature. That is what one has brought with him from his past life. It will not occur if he did not bring it with him. Therefore, You have to understand that he has a habit of doing so. That is what You have to 'Know.' Then it will not affect You, because the habit
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is of the one who has the habit, and You are the Self. Then it will get discharged. The problem arises when You get stuck there (ego). However, conflict will occur. It is not possible to not have conflict. You only have to make sure that you do not drift apart due to the conflict. Conflict will occur without fail; it will occur between husband and wife too, and yet they remain together, do they not? That will occur. That is why 'we' have not put any pressure on anyone that 'you cannot get into conflict.'
Questioner: A taanto (continued grudge linked to a conflict) should not remain in that.
Dadashri: A taanto does not remain at all. Anyone who says, 'A taanto remains for me,' that, too, is not a taanto (applicable to only those who have Self-realization).
Questioner: But should we not have a strong continued intent (bhaav) that conflict must not occur?
Dadashri: Yes, you should. That is all you have to do. You have to keep doing pratikraman for that and maintain such inner intent. If it occurs again, then do pratikraman again because one layer goes away for sure, then another layer will go. They are with layers, are they not? Whenever I had a conflict, I used to make a mental note of it and tell myself that, "Today I learned something new. I got good knowledge today!' With conflict you will not slip; it will constantly keep You in awareness. It is a 'vitamin' for the Atma (the Self). That is why there is no problem with conflict. But do not separate after having a conflict. Therein lies your purusharth (spiritual effort). If you find that the mind is separating from the other person, then do pratikraman and settle everything down. How is it that 'we' get along with everyone here? Do 'we' or do 'we' not get along with you? That is how it is. Conflict arises due to words. I have to speak a lot and yet I do not have any conflict with you, do I?
One man tells me, 'I am very rebellious. It is only here in your satsang that people allow me to come. Otherwise, they do
