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Pratikraman
Dadashri: If he uses words, she will strike back. So then he will strike' her with his mind. Even the wife will strike her husband with her mind if he has a tendency to retaliate. She will say in her mind, 'I will take care of him when the time is right, and then she waits for the right moment!
[14] Release from Bondage of Inner Enemies
Pratikraman Whenever Abhorrence Arises
This is all worldly misery. Whatever thoughts you have about him, do prarikraman for that repeatedly. For any thoughts that may occur on a given day, keep doing pratikraman, that is all. Erase them all immediately. With pratikraman, all your attacking thoughts will cease. Then the mind will not have any abhorrence. When the mind becomes irritated with someone, it will stop if you do pratikraman in his name. (245)
Questioner: Should pratikraman be done in the mind, by reading or by saying it?
Dadashri: No, just within the mind. You can do it in the mind, you can say it out loud, or in any other way, such as, 'I have made some mistake towards you and for that I am asking for Your forgiveness. It will do even if you say it in your mind. Do prarikraman for the mental attack; that is all. People of a lower socio-economic class physically hit others, whereas we do it with words. Or else people hurt others with their minds. Do people hit others with words or not?
Questioner: Yes, they do.
Dadashri: The ladies will say, "His words hurt me so badly that they are etched in my heart! And even hurting others with the mind, it is all of the same family.
Questioner: 'With the mind' means without saying anything?
Questioner: In a situation if someone is saying negative things about me, I end up reacting angrily and saying things out loud in anger and attack. Which is worse, hurting others through spoken words or just through the mind?
Dadashri: Saying through words? Did you fight with him through words?
Questioner: Yes.
Dadashri: Quarrels created through words will give their effect here and now, and will dissipate right away, whereas quarrels through the mind will progress further. When you say things verbally, the other person will answer back and so you will face the consequences right away. But quarrels fought though the mind will Sow seeds first, then, when that karma matures, it will give fruits. So now you are sowing the seeds - creating the cause. So you should do pratikraman so that this 'cause' is not created.
Pratikraman for Attachment Questioner: All the pratikramans we have done so far are for anger (krodh) or abhorrence (dwesh) that occurred. But do we have to do prarikraman for attachment (raag), or not?
Dadashri: You do not have to do pratikraman for attachment (raag). All you have to do is stop raag. That is all.
Questioner: How can we stop that?
Dadashri: 'I want to become vitarag, so I have to stop raag.' If you want to reach another station (vitarag) fast, then don't you have to get up from where you are right now (station
