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circumstance with equanimity, there would be bliss (anand). But as of now, I am not able to do that.
Dadashri: So here you have to gradually maintain awareness and do it. As you spend time with Me, those changes will come. If just one word of mine falls on your ears, then that very one word will continue to do the work. The Purusharth of Conversation with
"Chandubhai' Questioner: We have a saying, "One lives to be a hundred if he defies death once. In this manner, how wonderful would it be if we can gain control over our kashays (inner anger-pridedeceit-greed) when they arise. How much would we have conquered!
Dadashri: It is like this: what do you mean by control"? It means You can do it whenever you wish. If You can find Your Gnan, Be in Your Gnan, then these wretched things (kashays) will remain in control for sure; Gnan verily will do all the work.
Hence the best solution for that is to talk to 'Chandubhai', "How are you 'Chandubhai'? What is going on? Why did you hurt her? Talking to him in this way is verily the solution. What should you say?
Questioner: That I should constantly talk with him and keep telling him, "This is not a good thing you are doing. Why do you miss this key opportunity and enter into kashay?
Dadashri: That is what you have to say. You can tell him everything. And if he still misses the opportunity, you can tell him again and make him do pratikraman. Pratyakhyan should also be done. Otherwise, he is likely to believe that whatever he did was right.
Forced Expression of Unpleasant Karma When you do pratikraman, your opinion is gone in regards
to "this is right and that is wrong': that opinion of yours is broken.
Questioner: Mahatmas' opinions have been destroyed, but when there is unfolding of karma, they get shaken up. What this gentleman said few minutes ago was unbecoming of him and beyond his nature.
Dadashri: Yes, you realized that it came out beyond his nature, did you not? There is so much force in karma unfolding that even if one does not wish to say anything, he will end up saying it. So then there is increased repentance about it and you question why it occurred. The answer is that there is a grave disease within, so let it come out. And for that, today find some quiet time and keep repenting for five hours or so.
What do you have to say (to 'Chandulal') in your repentance? 'Where do you have to go? What problems do you have? And if problems do occur, then 'whatever occurs is correct.' Just let go. If you hang on to it, then you will take a beating.
Did the prakruti you thought you did not have, come out?
Questioner: He, file one, has never done this before. I do not even know why he did it!
Dadashri: That is the very thing You have to see.' It was time for the other person's disease to come out, and it was time for yours to come out, and that is why everything came together.
Questioner: This is the unfolding of his karma; he is not the one saying this.
Dadashri: Yes, it is not Him, the Self; it is the unfolding karma that is working very forcefully. You should ask him whether it was his intention (bhaavna) to speak this way and he will tell you, 'No, that was not my wish and yet it occurred.' And so it
