Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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parent should be to nurture and raise your child well and direct him on the right path. If he speaks to you in a disrespectful manner, and you do the same to him, he will become rebellious. Instead you should sit and explain things to him in a gentle and loving manner. There should be a spiritual understanding behind all your acts. If you do not allow spirituality to enter, something negative will enter in the vacuum. The vacuum will not remain for long. If a house is left vacant in these times, will squatters not trespass and occupy it? (P.39)
If you are a vegetarian, you do not drink alcohol and you treat your wife with respect, your children will take note of your virtues. They will notice how other parents fight, whereas their parents do not. They learn this through simple observation. (P.47)
What is the role of a woman in the home? All the people in the neighborhood should be impressed by the way she fulfils her duties. The true religion of a woman is to raise her children with good moral values. And if her husband is lacking in these values, she should help him with it too. Religion is to make things better for one's family. Should one not try to make things better? (P.41)
Everyday the husband fights with his wife in front of the children. As they observe this, they begin to think that their father is at fault. Your son may be small but he has a keen sense of justice. Girls on the other hand, will tend to side with their mothers because their intellect does not seek justice. Boys however, will judge their father because their intellect seeks justice. As the boy grows up, his judgment against his father will strengthen and his resolve to get even with him will also grow strong when he listens to others. Later in his life he will take his revenge on the father for abusing his mother. (P.48)
Some parents get so involved and engrossed in their religious practices and rituals that they become irritated when their children disturb them. They become irritated with their children, within whom God resides, while they continue worshipping an idol of God. How can you ever become angry with your children? There is a living God present within them. (P.41)
Parents should not fight in front of their children. They should set some standards for their conduct. If either parent makes a mistake, they should forgive each other. The children will witness this and be at peace. If parents want to fight, they should wait until they are alone, then they can fight as long as they want. When children witness their parents fighting they develop a negative attitude towards one parent or the other. So it is indeed the parents who are responsible for ruining their children these days. (P.49)
(3) DO NOT FIGHT IN THE PRESENCE OF
CHILDREN