Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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are no restrictions here that exclude married people.
But these young adults have discovered for themselves that there are lots of problems in a marriage. They tell me that they have seen how happy their own parents are and that they do not want that kind of happiness. (P.451)
his girlfriend. But when the son becomes very defensive and abusive towards him, the father recognizes that the son is not ready to accept his advice and that it would be better to let him learn from his own experience. Later his son sees his girlfriend with another boy at the movies and he immediately realizes that his father was right all along. (P.457)
Questioner: What is the difference between attachment (moha) and love (prem)?
Do not pressure your son into marriage or else he will blame you for ruining his life. The truth of the matter is that the son will not know how to get along with his wife, so he will end up blaming you. (P.453)
If you have a girl in mind for your son, tell him that you approve of her and that if he also approves her, you can pursue the matter further. If he does not like the girl, then you should just drop the matter. You must first get his consent; otherwise he will keep blaming you. (P.453)
Dadashri: Have you seen moths hovering around an open flame and eventually destroy themselves in it? They destroy their own lives. That is called moha (infatuation). Love however, is everlasting. Nevertheless there is still some attachment in it. But the marriage which lasts, is more than just attachment or infatuation (P.458)
Questioner: Is it a sin to marry a person you are in love with
Dadashri: No. A temporary love marriage is considered a sin. Such a marriage would only last for one or two years. A life-long love marriage however, is acceptable. If one wishes to marry, he should only marry once. People should not have too many relationships, such a situation would take them to hell. (P.455)
For example, in a relationship where there is infatuation, if one of the partners develops a hideous boil on the face, the other partner would find it repulsive to look at him or her and the infatuation would diminish. With love, even if one partner develops innumerable boils on his or her body, it would not affect the other at all. Find yourself such a love or do not get married at all. Otherwise you will have to deal with the consequences of infatuation and attachment.
If your spouse sulks, you will come to despise his looks. If he says something pleasant to you, you will like him, but when he
A father questions the integrity of his son's relationship with