Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Questioner: Then what should they do?
Dadashri: There should be sincerity and a commitment to just one person. Your life should be like this. A boy should be sincere to just one girl and vice versa. An insincere life is wrong.
Questioner: How can a person remain sincere if the other person changes and becomes insincere?
Dadashri: Then stop dating altogether. Get married. After all, we are humans, not uncivilized!
After marriage you should live sincerely with each other. If you want to live sincerely, then you should not be involved with any other man from the very beginning. You should be very strict in this matter. If you want to date someone, do so with the idea in your mind that you will marry him. Tell your parents that you have decided to marry him and no one else. An insincere life is a wild life. (P.532)
Would you tolerate it if a person had a bad reputation and had many addictions?
Questioner: Absolutely not.
Dadashri: And what if his character was good but he had an addiction?
Questioner: I would only tolerate it if that addiction were for cigarettes, nothing else.
Dadashri: You are right. Smoking is tolerable. Alcohol is not to be tolerated. You have said well. Good character is very important. Do you believe that?
Questioner: Of course! How can one live without it?
Dadashri: Yes, if Indian girls and women understood just this much, a lot would be accomplished. To understand the importance of character is enough.
Questioner: Our noble thinking has developed as a result of reading good literature.
Dadashri: Very good. I am pleased. (P. 536)
Deception and insincerity is rampant everywhere. You do not see this but I can see everything. Wherever there is insincerity, there can never be happiness. You should remain sincere. When you get married, you should accept whatever mistakes the other person had made prior to the marriage and after that both of you should remain sincere to each other. You should not look at anyone else after your marriage. Once you are married, you must remain sincere, whether you like it or not. Do you not remain sincere to your mother, even when you do not like