Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Have you not seen people fast and do all kinds of rigid penance for the sake of their Souls? To them, their penance is their Soul's vitamin. But you are fortunate to receive your vitamins for the Soul, in the comforts of your own home. (P. 522)
surprised me. They are so aggressive even before marriage that I thought to myself what would become of their poor husbands. Some of the boys too say that they would rather not get married. I tell the girls that they must get rid of this opinion of theirs because they have no alternative but to get married. If they were to marry with the notion that boys are imbeciles, they will also see their husbands as such, and will always have problems in their marriage. (P.510)
Do not set your heart on a love marriage. There are no guarantees as to what your partner's temperament will be like later on. When your parents find you a boy, you can look at him critically. Make sure he has reasonable intelligence and has no major defects. You should feel attraction towards him. You should be attracted to him.
This whole world is evolving towards liberation, but it is the clashes and conflicts amongst people that create obstacles along the way. It is the very nature of a hot scorching summer to pull after it a season of monsoon rains. As the summer heat intensifies, it will bring the rains. There is no need for one to be afraid of anything.
Questioner: Can parents make a mistake in their choice of a boy for us?
Dadashri: Their intention is to do the best for you. Despite this, if something goes wrong, it is your destiny, that which you have brought with you from your past life. So what can anyone do then? The risks are greater when you look for a spouse on your own. Many marriages have failed in this way. (P. 525)
In the same way, the nature of the worldly life is that it will steer you towards liberation, pulling moksha towards you like a magnet. The harsher the worldly life becomes, the quicker the moksha will come. One should not succumb to life's ruthlessness, but hold on to his position on the stage. Understand that adverse circumstances are a vitamin for the Soul and worldly happiness is a vitamin for the physical body. Go through life with this understanding. Everyday you are bound to get some vitamin for the Soul. From my very childhood, I have been enjoying both vitamins, whereas you only look for the vitamin for the body.
A mahatma's only son expressed to me his wish to get married. I asked him what sort of girl he wanted to marry and he said that he would do whatever I asked of him. He also added that his own mother was very shrewd when it came to choosing a wife for him, which meant that he had already accepted the idea of his mother picking his marriage partner for him. This