Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Dadashri: Do you desire liberation now?
such friendships have created terrible problems. The girls have become pregnant and committed suicide, while the boys have remained unaffected. (P.506)
Questioner: Yes, I do.
Dadashri: So why are you mingling with boys? It is acceptable for you to keep the company of girls. You can go out with them and have a good time. (P.505)
When you reach a marriageable age, let your parents know that you are ready to get married and to find you a suitable boy who will stay with you throughout the rest of your life. Do not be bashful about it. Just tell them that Dada has told you to ask them. And within a couple of years you can get married after you both approve of each other. Men will no longer desire you once they know that you are spoken for.
Questioner: Why do parents become suspicious about us even when we have a platonic relationship with our male friends?
Dadashri: You can never have such a relationship with a boy. It is not possible. It is wrong to be friends with boys.
It is not good to have boyfriends. They will ultimately take advantage of you. They can be very deceptive and untrustworthy and they will not think about your welfare.
Questioner: What is wrong with that?
Dadashri: It would be like putting fire and fuel together. Together they will ignite! Both look for an opportunity to take advantage of the other. Each is like a hunter in search of prey.
Marriage is the best thing for you. You will not get anywhere if you keep wandering around. Your parents are settled and they no longer have any problems. You should also do the same. Does that not appeal to you? Would you rather roam around? Do you not understand my point? (P.509)
Questioner: You have said that boys and girls should not have friendships with each other.
Dadashri: Yes, absolutely not.
Questioner: People will not accept this, Dada.
Girls ask me why I tell them to get married. I tell them that they should either get married or take a vow of celibacy. They must make a decision one way or another and stick to that decision firmly. When I ask them why they object to getting married, they tell me that boys nowadays have no personalities, so what is the use of marrying such imbeciles? Their boldness
Dadashri: That may be so, but I have seen situations where