Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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future happiness. Your parents refuse to allow you to go out late, to protect you from any unhappy consequences in the future. Your parents caution you because they do not want you to ruin your future. (P.498)
Questioner: It is usually the boy in an Indian family that is favored by his parents who generally feel that girls will all eventually marry and become part of another family, while the boys will bring home money and support them. This makes the girls feel unwanted and unloved.
Dadashri: Yes, they are not ready, but even then it is better for them to get married at an early age. As soon as they finish their studies they should get married. Even if they get married first and later, perhaps in another year or so, complete their education, there would be no problem. Once she becomes bound by marriage, her life will run smoothly. Otherwise, in her later life she will suffer hardship. (P.504)
Dadashri: When you talk about being attracted to friends, are you referring to male friends or female friends?
Dadashri: A girl is wrong to think that her parents do not love her. All parents love their children. This misunderstanding on her part will hurt her parents, who believe they have undergone great hardship to raise their children.
Questioner: Both.
Questioner: So why do I feel that my parents do not love me?
Dadashri: Boyfriends too?
Questioner: Yes, both.
Dadashri: So many girls ask this question. Such thoughts are easily suppressed when they are young, but as they grow up, how do they deal with such feelings of unworthiness?
They acquire an intellect that is molded and influenced by external factors. This wrong intellect creates a wrong understanding. And it is this wrong understanding that makes her, as well as those around her, suffer. (P.502)
Dadashri: It is fine. You have to stay in equanimity; without raag or dwesh with them and you should always be on your guard and not lose control of yourself. Those who want to be celibate and attain liberation must have as little contact with the opposite sex as possible. Do you agree?
Questioner: Yes.
Questioner: Nowadays girls are not ready to marry at an early