Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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is exactly how it should be. (P.527)
Questioner: My daughter is very opposed to the idea of an arranged marriage. She thinks that her life will be ruined and says that she would rather become acquainted with the boy and see him several times before consenting to marry him. What should I do about her?
After she got married, one day I asked her whether she wanted me to order some special soap to make his complexion fair and she replied that it was not necessary and that he was already fair enough. There was no need for her to be so overly concerned about his complexion. I thought he was a fine boy. How could they let go of such a nice boy? (P.531)
Questioner: Is dating a sin? When girls and boys go out together, is it a sin? Is there anything wrong in it?
Dadashri: They fight anyway despite getting to know one another prior to the marriage. The couples who accepted their arranged marriage and did not become acquainted with each other prior to their marriage, are doing very well, because they have accepted what nature has offered them, while in the other case they try to use their own intellect. (P.528)
Dadashri: Yes. If you feel like going out with boys, then you should get married. You should decide on just one boy and stick to him. Until you get married you should not involve yourself with any boys.
A daughter of a mahatma refused to marry a well-educated boy that her parents had painstakingly found for her and felt that he was ideal. They both liked him very much and when she refused to marry him, it upset them tremendously. In his frustration, the father came to me and I told him that I would speak to his daughter. I asked her why she did not like the boy, and whether it was because of his size or his height. She said that it was because his complexion was a little dark. I told her that if that was the only problem, she should go ahead and consent to him and that I would make him fair. She even confronted her father why he had come all the way to complain to me. What else could the poor man do?
Questioner: In America and England, when boys and girls turn fourteen years of age they begin dating. If they like someone they will continue dating each other and their relationship will progress. Sometimes after they have been dating for a long time, they will separate because something goes wrong or they stop liking each other. Then they will start dating someone else and if that does not workout, they will date someone else. Everything just moves around in circles, and sometimes they maybe dating more than two or three people at the same time
Dadashri: That is all wildness. That is a wild life.