Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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her? Are you not sincere to her even when she has disagreeable traits? (P.540)
She had made preparations to tackle all disputes. She was ready to fire before he could even begin. If he fired a torpedo, she would fire back with an equally powerful weapon. I informed her that she had begun a cold war, for which there would be no end.
Questioner: I accept that everything happens according to my own karma. But how do I deal with an insincere husband, with equanimity?
Girls have a tendency to act this way. These poor boys are naive, they do not plan for anything and consequently they lose the battle.
Dadashri: If your husband is insincere, how can you win him over? Whatever your fate has in store for you, will not leave you alone. Things do not go according to our wishes in this world. Come to me and I will give you guidance and knowledge of how to deal with him.
In Aurangabad, a Muslim girl named Masroor came to our satsang. I asked her to come and sit next to me. She looked into my eyes and felt a sense of peace and decided to stay. She told me that she was a lecturer and her fiancé was a lawyer in Pakistan and that they were to be married in six months. I told her that at the moment she was happy, but what would she do if after getting married, her husband made her unhappy. Did she have some sort of a plan as to how she would handle such a situation? Surely she must have thought about how she would get along with her husband. She told me that she was prepared. If he were to say something to her, she would have a response for it. She said that she had a response for everything he could possibly say.
I asked Masroor who had taught her all this and told her that if she were to carry on in this way, her husband was bound to divorce her within the first six months and whether that was what she wanted. I told her that her approach was very wrong. She protested that if she did not act this way, he would become her oppressor. I reassured her and told her that she should listen to my advice if she wanted a happy marriage. I told her that all the women who had prepared to fight back with their husbands had failed miserably. I explained to her that she should go without anticipating any antagonism from him and not make any preparations for conflicts. If she went on fighting with her husband day in and day out, would he not think about other women? She would only win him over with love.
Questioner: Love?
Dadashri: Yes, love. There is an element of love even in attachment. I told her that she did not hate him and it was not a
Just like Russia and USA, she had prepared for a cold war.