Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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says something bitter and spiteful, you begin to dislike him. (P.459)
Questioner: How can I stop dating?
Dadashri: On the other hand a non-Indian wife will put all the blame on you, threaten you and leave you. An Indian wife will always stay with you, through thick and thin. I am trying to make you understand by warning you about the consequences. Do not get involved with a non-Indian girl or else you will regret it.
Dadashri: You should stop it. Decide to do this right now. It is your duty to stop doing something wrong as soon as you realize it. You must stop dating because from our Gnan you now know that you will create causes for future suffering.
If you have an Indian wife, no matter how much you fight with one another, things will always go back to the way they were.
Ouestioner: Yes that is right.
If you are pure you will find a spouse who is pure. That is
will find a spouse who is pure. That is vyavasthit, and it is precise. (P.459)
Questioner: I do not discriminate between colors. If she is a good person, what difference does it make whether she is an American or an Indian?
Dadashri: So therefore, decide that you will only marry an Indian girl. Then it does not matter whether she is a Brahmin, a Jain or a Vaishnav. (P.461)
Questioner: What are the benefits of marrying within one's own caste?
Dadashri: No. Do not even think about getting involved with an American girl. You have seen the relationship between your father and mother. Do they ever have disputes?
Questioner: Yes, they have disputes.
Dadashri: But when that happens, does your mother ever walk out on your father?
Dadashri: If you marry someone of your own caste, you will have similar traits and a mutual understanding. There are some inherent idiosyncrasies in each caste. These differences may be small, but they will also be the cause of minor frictions between the two of you and sometimes these differences may even be drastic. For example, if you like ghee (clarified butter) on your khichadi (rice dish) and if you marry someone from another caste who generally does not use ghee, she will be reluctant to use ghee in her cooking. So problems will occur
Questioner: No, she does not.