Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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independent. He has no need for any kind of support.
receive what you give. If you are abusive all the time towards your elderly parents, you will encounter similar abuse when you become old. You are free to do what you want. (P.445)
(17) THE SELECTION OF A WIFE
Human beings cannot survive without human warmth and security. If we tell someone to sleep alone in a very large and expensive bungalow, would he like it? Man needs human warmth and security, which is why he gets married. It is not wrong to get married. It is the law of nature.
You cannot change what destiny has in store for you. If you are destined to marry, you cannot avoid it. Even if you decide that you do not want to marry, you will not be able to avoid marriage.
Just be spontaneous and natural about marriage. Keep in your mind that you want to get married to someone from a good family, and when the circumstances arrive, you should get married. But what is the point of becoming anxious and restless before the time is right? Do you want to run around unnecessarily before your time is right?
Questioner: Will the inner intent and design (bhaav) we make in this life come to fruition in our next life?
Questioner: No, only when the time is right.
Dadashri: Yes, whatever bhaav you have made in this life will come into effect in the next life. But you cannot change anything in this life, nobody can. Even the Lord himself cannot change anything for Himself! You made the bhaav to marry in your past life, so marriage is inevitable for you in this life. Whatever plan you made in your past life, is the plan that will come into effect in this life. (P. 449)
Dadashri: Yes. You are in need of a wife and the wife is in need of you. (P.450)
Questioner: If some of your young followers say they do not wish to get married, what advice do you give to them in private?
Just as people cannot live without defecating, they cannot live without getting married. If mentally you are a bachelor there is no problem, but if your mind is filled with marriage, you cannot avoid marriage. People cannot live in solitude. They need others around them. Who can exist in solitude? Only the Gnani Purush can exist in solitude, because he is absolutely
Dadashri: In private, I tell them to get married. I tell them that they should get married, so that it will help reduce the number of unmarried girls and I also tell them that I do not have any problems with those who marry. This path of liberation is open and available for married people also; there