Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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would be better if you were to remain silent. By fighting, your peace of mind as well as your children's will be lost. (P.226)
The children call you bad names and you call them bad names. This creates an atmosphere of hostility, which can flare up at any time. So you just have to change your opinion by telling yourself, after all he is a good person'. (P.228)
start. If you all live together, it will cause friction, which will make everyone's life miserable. If you want your children's love, let them live their own life. Your love for each other will grow if you remain apart. When you all live together, your son will obviously side with his wife and not pay attention to what you say. Then your love for each other will dwindle. When your daughter-in-law complains about you to your son, and he sympathizes with her, you will be hurt and all the domestic problems will begin. It is better to be happy and live away from each other. (P. 234)
Questioner: How should we behave with children when there is a conflict?
Questioner: I miss my children who live abroad and keep worrying about them.
Dadashri: You should not feel any attachment or abhorrence towards them. If they damage or spoil things, you should not have negative feelings towards them. See them as pure Souls. Your troubles will end if you do not have any attachment or abhorrence towards them. And this Gnan is such that you will not have any attachment or abhorrence (P.228)
Dadashri: The children are having a great time abroad. They do not even think about their mother and here the mother worries about them.
Questioner: The children keep writing to us, asking us to come and live with them abroad.
If your mind becomes troubled, it is your own fault. No one else is responsible. You should understand that the fault is yours and it occurred because you did not know how to look at the other person. You must destroy this fault. You should only look at the pure Soul within that person. I have given you the solution: the knowledge that 'I am the pure Soul' and everything else is vyavasthit, scientific circumstantial evidence. (P.229)
Dadashri: Yes, but is it in your hands to go? What is wrong with letting things be the way they are? You should live your own life and let them live theirs. Just because you gave birth to them, does it mean they are yours? If they were yours, they would be with you even after death. But is this possible? (P.235)
After your son marries, it will not help you to start any conflict with his wife. Therefore you must be cautious from the very
There may be fifty people living in the house, but because you