Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Questioner: If we hated someone in our past life, will we have to meet the same individual in this life to repay the debt?
source of grief for him. The son tells his father that the wealth belonged to his grandfather and that he will take him to court for his share. This proves that the children are not really yours. (P.302)
If a father insults his son and fights with him for an hour, what will the son do? The son will challenge his father's authority. He may even take his father to court over issues regarding his inheritance. Will the father still worry about his son then? His worries will cease once his attachment for his son leaves. Anxieties and troubles occur to those who have attachment. (P.305)
Dadashri: Not necessarily. Debts are not paid off in that way. When you bind vengeance, you create raag-dwesh from within. If you had animosity towards your son in this life, you may wonder when the two of you will reunite to pay off that debt. It may even be that the son comes into your home as a cat that scratches you even when you offer it some milk. This is how accounts are paid off. This is a world of cause and effect. Sooner or later the causes will have to be paid off. Many children come with such intentions of revenge that they make their parents' lives miserable. Does this not happen? (P.314)
Questioner: I have three daughters and I worry about their future. What shall I do?
If his wife's brother-in-law were ill in the hospital, he would visit him at least a dozen times, whereas if his own father were ill, he would probably only see him a couple of times. Who influences this kind of behavior in him? His wife pressures him into seeing her brother-in-law. She turns the 'key' and he becomes oblivious to everything else. The wives influence this whole world. (P.307)
Dadashri: Instead of worrying about their future, it would be better for you to secure a 'safe side' by daily application of what I have been teaching you. Your worries about their future are detrimental. Your greatest solution is to secure this "safeside for yourself daily. (P.324)
A son is generally quite good as long as he does not meet his 'guru' (the wife). But it is inevitable; he is bound to meet her, whether she is Indian or otherwise, and once this happens, the control will no longer be in the hands of the parents. So the parents should manage the reins properly, and let go where necessary. (P.307)
Become and live as a trustee for your children. You should not have worries or anxieties about their marriage. (P.326)
Your daughters have come with their own karma. You need not worry about them. Just take good care of them. They