Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Dadashri: Do you ever worry?
already come with a suitor for themselves. Do you need to go around telling people to give birth to a son for your daughters? They already come prepared. When your daughter becomes of age, you become anxious, but you do not know that somewhere in this world there is a suitable boy already waiting for her. So stop worrying and sleep soundly. (P.326)
Questioner: Generally I do not worry. I have everything, but at times I wished I had a child.
Dadashri: It is like having a lot of food but no one (son or daughter) to eat it. Yes that too can be a problem! (P.336)
Worries create obstructing karmas (antaraya karma) and they only serve to prolong the work at hand. If a friend tells you about an eligible boy for your daughter who is of age, you should make arrangements for them to meet. But if you worry, your anxiety will just be another obstacle for you to overcome. Just ask yourself whether anything in this world is in your hands. Do you have any control over any situation? Do you even have control over your own bowels that you can go to the bathroom at will? Is there not some other force at work behind everything? (P.329)
In certain lifetimes, those who are born with great merit karma will have no children. It is because karmas determine whether or not a couple will have children. Consider yourself very fortunate that you do not have any children in this life. Who says that a childless couple is unfortunate? A man told me that his wife constantly griped about not having children. I then met with his wife and explained the reality of things to her. She finally understood the blessings of being childless. (P.337)
Even on his deathbed, a man worries about the future of his unmarried daughter and so he passes away in a state of adverse internal meditation. This will result in him taking birth in the animal kingdom, where his life will be filled with pain. What else can he expect for not living his life, the way it should be lived? (P.331)
If a child is born to a couple after many years of waiting, the father becomes overjoyed. But if that child goes away, then the father will suffer just as much. So you should understand that the one that comes will also have to leave, and when that happens, what will become of you? Instead it would be better to be aware about the nature of things, so that later on you do not suffer disappointment. (P.339)
(13) CONSIDER YOURSELF BLESSED FOR BEING
CHILDLESS
Children are really our accounts of raag and dwesh, not money. Raag and dwesh is a consequence of relationships from our