Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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past lives. As a consequence of these accounts of raag and dwesh, the children will harass the father to no end. Even the great King Shrenik in the time of Lord Mahavir was tortured in prison by his own son.
When parents grieve for their dead child, it brings suffering to child. People do all sorts of things in ignorance. You should accept things and stay calm. Why all the unnecessary fuss? Everyone will lose his child at some point in time.
People complain about having no children. What is all the fuss about having children when they make their parents' lives miserable? What use are they? Was there ever a life in which you did not have children? You have finally, with so much difficulty, managed to attain this human life and that too being without a child, so use it to your advantage. Search for that which will lead you to your liberation. (P. 341)
I too, had a boy and a girl who died in infancy. They were our guests who came and left. They were not our property and they did not belong to us. Will we not also have to leave, one day? It is our duty to give happiness to those who are living and dependent on us. Those who are gone are gone forever, so stop crying for them. What people do instead is keep remembering those who have gone and neglect the ones who are living and present in front of them. This is how people fail to carry out their duties. If you lose a lot of money, what will you do? Will you torture yourself over it?
Questioner: Last year I lost my only son and I suffered a lot. I want to know what I did in my previous life to deserve this?
Dadashri: This is simply a matter of accounts. His time with you is dependant on this account. Once the account is over, he leaves. This is the law.
Questioner: No I would forget about it.
Questioner: When a child dies immediately after birth, does it mean that the child had just that much of an account with us?
Dadashri: Yes, all suffering stems from ignorance. In reality nobody is a father or a son. There is no point in worrying about the loss of your children. It is only for your parents that you must have such worries, because they were the ones who took care of you and nurtured you. The mother took care of you for nine months and the father supported you throughout your life. (P.351)
Dadashri: The account of raag and dwesh of the child with his parents is very precise. When he leaves he makes them suffer terribly. Some accounts are such that the child will die only after leaving his parents with enormous medical bills. (P.348)
Whenever you remember your child, just say a prayer to Dada