Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Questioner: We would get burned.
audience believes it to be real. But when actors go off stage, they know that it was only a play and that it was not real. (P.118)
Dadashri: So a tong is necessary.
Questioner: What kind of tong should we use here?
Dadashri: There are people in your family that are like these tongs. They themselves do not feel hurt and they are also capable of handling someone who is hurting himself. When you talk to your child, you should have such a person present with you, who can reinforce whatever you say and help you deal with the matter. You will have to find a way to deal with the problem otherwise everyone will get hurt. (P.114)
There is only one way to make this world better and that is through love. But what the world regards as love is merely attachment. All attachment by its very nature is associated with expectations. Besides, where is that love when your child breaks your expensive china? Instead you become irritated and angry; that is not true love. Children are looking for true love, but they do not find it. Only they understand their predicament. Not only can they not bear their plight, but also they cannot even express it either.
If what you say does not make a difference, you should let it go. You are foolish to continue when you do not know how to explain things. Not only will it be in vain but you will also ruin your peace of mind and your spiritual progress as well. (P.116)
I have a way out for the young people of today. I know how to guide them. My love for them remains constant. My love neither increases nor decreases. Love that fluctuates is not true love; it is attachment. Love that is constant is God's love. It wins everyone over. I for myself do not wish to win over anyone, but they surrender to my love. People have not yet seen true love. True love exists the heart of a Gnani Purush. This love is absolute and unconditional. The Gnani's love is God's love. (P.119)
Questioner: Sometimes parents go overboard with their display of affection towards their children.
Dadashri: All that is emotional. Even people who do not display their affection can be called emotional. Everything needs to be normal. By that I mean it should be dramatic. You have to play your part convincingly, just as you would in a play. Actors act out their roles so convincingly that even the
I get along very well with children. They make friends with me. As soon as I enter their homes, even the little toddlers would come and welcome me in. You pamper them, whereas I treat them with love. I do not pamper them.