Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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Should double beds exist in our culture? What sort of people are you? In the past, Indian couples never occupied the same bedroom. They always slept in separate rooms. Just look at the parents of today. They furnish their room with a double bed and so the children come to perceive this as being a natural thing. (P.158)
exams. Give them some incentive. If they see immediate positive reinforcement they will seize the opportunity. Another approach is to love them unconditionally. If you give them love they will do what you tell them. Children readily listen to me and will do whatever I tell them. We should always try our best to give them the right understanding. We should never give up on them. We should make all the efforts. After that whatever they do is correct and accept that it was meant to be. (P.171)
(9) PARENTAL COMPLAINTS
Questioner: My main question was how we should get them to understand the importance of education. They still do not listen to us.
A man complained to me about his nephew who would always wake up late every morning. This habit of his was very disruptive for everyone else in the household. He wanted me to reprimand his nephew. I told him that I would not do that, but I would make him understand. I spoke with the nephew and told him to pray for the strength to wake up early and I blessed him. I told the rest of the family members to be kind to him and to offer him an extra blanket if he needed it. I told them not to make fun of him. Within six months of this conversation, they began to see positive changes in him. (P.169)
Dadashri: That is because you do not know how to be a mother, otherwise why would they not listen? They refuse to listen because you yourself did not listen to your own parents.
Questioner: Is it also the effect of the cultural environment?
Dadashri: No, it is not the environment's fault whatsoever. It is because the parents do not know how to be parents. Being a parent is a greater responsibility than even that of a Prime Minister.
Questioner: Today's children seem to be more interested in playing, than their schoolwork. How can we guide them towards education without creating any conflict?
Questioner: How can that be?
Dadashri: Start a reward system. Tell them you will give them so much for getting good grades at school and passing all their
Dadashri: If a Prime Minister does something wrong, he would