Generation Gap

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Dada Bhagwan Foundation

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always favor the one who comes forward first and is the first to speak. (P.178)
not do this, you should just continue to do whatever you normally do. Children do not sulk with me. What good does sulking do?
There are four children in a family. The father keeps getting annoyed with the two that do nothing wrong and never says anything to the two that keep making mistakes. All this stems from the root cause of their past lives. All children should be treated equally. If you favor one over the others, everything will be ruined. Are you still partial towards one? (P.179)
Questioner: Dada, show us your tactics, because the sulking and pampering goes on day in and day out. So if you give us your key, it will help us all.
Dadashri: They sulk because of your own selfish interest and expectations. Why should you have so many selfish motives?
Questioner: My son frequently gets upset very easily and sulks.
Questioner: I don't understand what you mean by selfishness. Whose selfishness?
Dadashri: It is because people give too much importance to the boys and not enough to the girls. The girls are less likely to sulk. (In India, the male child receives more importance.)
Dadashri: A person who is sulking does so because he knows that you want something from him.
Questioner: Why do they sulk, Dada?
Questioner: Should we keep our selfish expectations hidden?
Dadashri: It is because you constantly give into them. Just let them come to me and sulk! They do not sulk with me because I never give in to them. Even when they refuse to eat, I would not bother with them, whereas you make a big fuss and insist that they eat. I do not coddle them to eat. In doing so you are reinforcing bad habits. I know what bad habits it creates. When he gets hungry, he will eat, you will not have to pamper him. I know of other tactics. And sometimes if he is being very obstinate, he may not eat anything even if he is hungry. So then I would communicate directly with his Soul. You should
Dadashri: There should not be any such motive. Why should you have any expectations? You will get whatever your karma has in store for you. If you harbor any expectations from him, he will become even more obstinate and difficult. He will continue sulking. (P. 179)
Questioner: How can we pacify a youngster who throws temper tantrums?