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Aptavani-4
You should not have suspicion (shanka) towards anyone. Suspicion is the result of opinions that have been formed.
Why do boys wear their hair long these days? In their opinion they look good with long hair. And what if you ask this young man to grow his hair long? He will think that it looks bad on him. This is just a collection of opinions. Opinions are dependent on the intellect's whims. Opinions are the result of where the intellect (buddhi) believes happiness lies. They depend upon what the person has brought forth in the receptacle of intellect (buddhi no ashaya) from his past life.
If someone has deceived you, you should not keep recalling it. Just look at what that person is doing today; otherwise, it would be considered prejudice. To remember the past, is very detrimental.
Questioner: But shouldn't we keep it in mind (dhyan)?
Dadashri: That will happen anyway. If you keep it in awareness (dhyan), then it becomes a prejudice. The prejudices will ruin your worldly life (sansar) once again. You should remain vitarag (free from attachment). You will naturally be aware of the past; nevertheless, it is not a helpful thing. It was because of the way your karma was unfolding, that he behaved the way he did towards you. If your karma is good, he will behave well towards you. Therefore, do not have prejudice. How are you to know, if the person who cheated you before, has come today to bring you a profit? It is up to you if you want to deal with him or not, but you should not have any prejudice! However, when the time comes, where you have to deal with him, do not have any prejudice against him.
Questioner: Does having opinion destroy vitaragata (state of absolute detachment)?
Dadashri: Yes, you should not have opinions. Opinion
