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good and that is bad,” based on what other people say. Then the intellect (buddhi) makes a decision and it starts working. Through Gnani's influence (Gnani's sangnya), worldly influence (loksangnya) is eliminated and you are liberated from those opinions.
If you have even the slightest positive or negative thought about someone, you should erase it immediately. If that thought lingers on for even a moment, it will reach the other person, and then it will proliferate. The thought will grow inside the other person, within four hours, twelve hours or even after two days. Therefore, these vibrations should not drift in that direction.
Questioner: What can we do about that?
Dadashri: You should erase it immediately through pratikraman. If you cannot do pratikraman, then remember “Dada' or whomever your God may be and briefly say, “These thoughts that I am having are not right; they are not my thoughts."
When your opinion about the other person breaks, you will be able to happily talk to him and that will also make him happy. But when you perceive him through your opinion, you see his faults, then your mind casts its shadow on his mind. So when he approaches you or comes to your house, you do not like it and that picture instantly gets imprinted within him.
What does one have to do to change one's opinion? If a person is a thief, in your mind you should keep saying, “He is an honest man, he is an honest man.” Say to yourself, “he is a good man, he is a pure Soul (Shuddhatma), and I have a wrong opinion about him”. This is how you should turn it around from within.
Spoken words are ruined because of opinions, and that is why they are harsh. When you express harsh words, the other person will also use harsh words towards you.
