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run away to moksha? And is it possible for one to attain moksha after having abandoned one's wife? Is it possible to attain moksha after hurting someone? So take care of all your obligations and responsibilities towards your wife and children. So calmly eat what your wife serves you, and know that it is all your overt (sthool; effect) karma! But make sure that the opinion you have behind the overt (sthool) karma is not one that will lead you to ‘charge’ subtle (sookshma) karma for the next life. For that very reason I have given you these ‘Five statements' (Agnas). Within you, You should not have the opinion that, “This is correct, what I am doing, and what ever I am enjoying is correct.' You should not have such an opinion. If you change your opinion, just this much, then that is all that is needed.
Parents become furious when their teenager has bad tendencies, and they go around saying, “My son is like this; he is a thief, he is worthless'. Good heavens! Just drop it, why don't you. What is done is done! For the present time, change his inner intent (bhaav). Change his internal opinions. The parents do not know how to change their child's intents. This is because they are not 'certified' parents. They do not have a ‘certificate' and they have become parents? If the boy picks up a habit of stealing, his parents will keep scolding and punishing him. They will keep telling him, “You have no sense, you do this and you do that.” This is how the parents go ‘overboard' (talk excessively). Needless to say, such extreme reactions on the part of parents do not help. So what does the child do? Mentally he decides, “Let them say what they want to, I am going to do it anyway." The parents are turning this boy, more and more into a thief. People have started to use the tools that were employed in the ages of Dwapar, Treta and Satyug in today's Kaliyug (the current era of the time cycle characterized by lack of unity in mind, speech and body).
Nowadays, the way to turn children around is different.
