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helped you a lot. You are alive because of pratikraman. Your home is limited to just this much. I have a home of so many people. However, there is no suspicion towards anyone.
Who Joins You in the Funeral Pyre? Questioner: So does that mean that I should not have the belief that, 'Whatever I say is correct??
Dadashri: Even if it is the truth, how does it concern "us, the Self"? What I am saying is that one has to go alone on his funeral pyre, does he not? So why carry the burden of all this needless strife?
"It went on before you were born and will go on after you die. Never will worldly interactions end; relative is the worldly life..."
"Janma pahela chalto ney mooa pachhi chalshey. Atake na koi di vyavahar re, sapeksha sansar re..."
- Navneet
One is caught up in the same old misery for infinite lives. The wife and children are of this life, but one has had wife and children in every past life. He has done nothing but created attachment-abhorrence (raag-dwesh) and bound karma. There is no trace of those relations now! It is karma that keeps giving the fruits. Sometimes it gives light and sometimes it gives darkness. Sometimes it gives a beating and sometimes it showers flowers. Can any relations be in this?
This has been going on since time immemorial. Who are we to 'run' all this? All we have to 'see' is how we can become free from our karma. 'We' the enlightened ones' have nothing to do with the children. It is nothing but unnecessary burden. Everyone is subject to his karma. If there were such a thing as a true relationship, then everyone in the home would make a decision not to fight. But within an hour or two, they start fighting. This is because it is not under anyone's control, for sure! It is
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all nothing but fruition of karma.
Karmas unfold and they go off like fireworks! No one is a relation and no one is a beloved here! So where is the ground for any doubts or suspicion here? You' are a pure Soul (Shuddhatma), and this 'neighbor,' the body, is the only one that is going to hurt you and bring you pain and suffering. And your children are your 'neighbor's' children. Why should 'we' quarrel with them? And when the neighbor's children do not listen and you try to say something to them, they will say, 'How can we be your children? We are 'Shuddhatma'!' No one cares about anyone else!
Questioner: If we look at the bottom line, then everyone has come to collect on their karmic debts. All we should be concerned about when we are settling these karmic debts is whether we are doing so with equanimity or not.
Dadashri: When they are settled with equanimity, salvation is yours.
Questioner: You graced me when I was misbehaving and being awkward and difficult. But this much is for sure: everything has been cleansed.
Dadashri: It was more than enough that you stuck to Dada the way you did. One day, you will understand the bottom line that this was correct.
Questioner: You know, Dada, not one day! From this day onwards! Who knows if tomorrow will even come? Therefore, grant me such energies that I can deal with whatever few remaining karmas there are and that the intellect does not take off on the wrong path.
Dadashri: When you come here for an hour at a time, it will begin to dissolve slowly and eventually will come to an end.
