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gives me instructions on how to do it, but I have no faith in him, then what should I do when the relative-self (prakruti) does not adjust?
Dadashri: Without faith, you cannot even put your two feet on the ground. If people know that a certain area of the ground is hollow, then no one will set foot on it. Will anyone sit in a ship if they know there is a hole in it?
Questioner: After this Gnan there should be spontaneity and naturalness (sahajpanu), and if the need arises to adjust to the other person, what should we do if we cannot adjust?
Dadashri: If that happens, 'see' it. 'You' just have to *see what 'Chandubhai' is doing. That is what our Gnan says.
Questioner: If we do not adjust to the other person, is that our obstinacy (aadayee)?
Dadashri: No, there is nothing like that. Everything happens according to the unfolding karmic account (hisaab) of the other person with you.
Questioner: But the other person will feel hurt that he is not being respected.
Dadashri: Then you have to make 'Chandubhai' do pratikraman for that. There is no other problem with that.
How many varieties of vegetable are there? Questioner: Many.
Dadashri: That is how this is. It is just like all the different varieties of vegetables. Pratikraman is the only solution for all this.
Questioner: So in such situations, should we let go or should we hang on to it?
Dadashri: Just see' what happens.
Questioner: Sometimes my unyielding obstinacy (pakkad) lasts for two to three days. The prakruti does not adjust at that time and I am filled with remorse about that.
Dadashri: If your relative-self (prakruti) is hurting or obstructing anyone, then you should make it do pratikraman. The prakruti will show you all kinds of things.
Questioner: Suppose I do not adjust at that time and the other person keeps hurting, then what should I do? Should I adjust?
Dadashri: All you have to do is pratikraman only. Do not adjust, and adjustment does not occur anyway. You cannot adjust even if you want to. The ticket (stamp) of adjustment' will not stick. It will come off no matter how many times you try sticking it. Therefore, whenever the other person is hurt or derives pleasure from you, do prarikraman.
It is not written anywhere that you have to adjust if someone continues to feel hurt. And one is not able to adjust that way either. You should not have such intent (bhaav) or even an opinion that you want to adjust.
Questioner: I did not understand this. Please explain it
again.
Dadashri: The opinion to adjust should not be there. Why should you have an opinion of adjusting when there is no possibility of adjusting? Instead, do pratikraman. That is the best thing to do. It is not good to have the intent to adjust either. That is all a worldly life. Whether it is in this form or that form, it is all simply only worldly interaction (sansar). There is no duty or religion (dharma) or the Self (Atma) in it.
Questioner: When the file has not been settled with equanimity sambhave nikaal, the other person feels hurt. (Sambhave nikaal is to settle all karmic accounts with equanimity).
