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Dadashri: That happens to one with lot of merit karma (punyashadi); his wife will always remain obedient to him! She will not have anything of her own, she will not have any opinions of her own; she will always remain surrendered.
What it is, is that I have given this Gnan to worldly people; to married couples. I have not told anyone to become ascetics and renounce everything. But I have asked them to settle whatever 'files' they have, with equanimity. I have told them to do pratikraman. I have shown them these two ultimate solutions. If You 'do' these two things, then no one can create any entanglement in your life. You could never stand on the shoreline if 'we' had not shown you these two solutions, could you? Danger lies at the shore because the ocean of the world can drown you easily.
When you had inner separation due to differences of opinion with your wife (matbhed), did attachment or abhorrence (raag or dwesh) occur at that time?
Questioner: They both occur one after another. Raag occurs when everything is suitable with us, and if we are at odds with each other, then dwesh occurs.
Dadashri: Therefore, all this is dependent on raag-dwesh. Opinions do not become one, do they? Only rare is the one who is fortunate with merit karma (punyashadi) whose wife will tell him, 'I will remain subservient to you. Wherever you go, even to your funeral pyre, I will remain subservient to you.' But that is rare. Therefore, there is no fun in this worldly life. You do not want to start a new worldly life all over again. You want to go to moksha now. Somehow or other, You need to settle all the profit-loss accounts of karma, wind everything up and bring about a final solution (ukel) to this.
This truly is the path of moksha. This Gnan is such that no one, at any given time, can ever touch You. But if You
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deliberately do something wrong, then things will become ruined. But even then, the Gnan will bring about a solution at some point in time. Therefore, now that You have attained it once, it is not something You want to let go of.
Opinions Obstruct the Bliss Within
This whole world runs because of opinions. Opinion is such that if we get some mangoes and other nice things, depending on the prakruti (the non-Self complex of karma effect), the senses will become attracted to those things. The senses and the signals from the senses result in the eating or overeating, but the senses do not have or bind an opinion about it. It is the buddhi, the intellect within, that decides. This mango is very good,' so that is how one will form an opinion about mangoes. He will then tell others that there is nothing better than a mango in the world. He will also keep thinking about the mango and it will keep bothering him that he does not get to eat one. There is no problem as far as the senses are concerned; if a mango is there, the senses become engaged in eating; and there is no problem if there are no mangoes either. It is the opinion that causes the problem. Now, the intellect alone is not the only factor. The knowledge arising from association with the worldly people (loksangnya) works a lot in this too. First, a belief is formed based on what others tell him such as, 'This is good and that is bad.' And if it is someone whom he respects and appreciates that says so, then his belief becomes even stronger.
So one does not form an opinion himself; his opinions are formed by the influence of the beliefs of others (loksangnya). The beliefs of, 'How can it happen without us? How will it work if I don't do it this way?"...this is the kind of association (sangnya) that has set in. Then 'we' gave you the knowledge of scientific circumstantial evidences as the 'doer' (vyavasthit) and so your opinion is now changed to, 'We are not really the doers; vyavasthit is.'
