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Questioner: Then what should I do?
Dadashri: You have to improve yourself first. You have to become such that no one has to use deceit towards you. No one uses deceit towards me. Others will be deceitful towards you only if there is deceit in you, otherwise they will never do so. All they present to you is your own photograph. It is all your own reflection
Questioner: We might have some karmic account with him; is that why the other person employs deceit towards us?
does not listen and he eats whatever he wants, and so I end up running to the doctor on his account.
Dadashri: What am I saying is that the doctor, too, has high blood pressure, does he not?
You do not know on what basis one eats. You are to tell him once that the doctor has told him not to eat chili peppers. If you impress him, then it is all right and if he is not impressed, that is all right too. You do not impress him and neither does the doctor.
Questioner: If I continue eating chili peppers and ask the other person to stop eating them; that is no way to impress him, is it?
Dadashri: You have to let go the issue of karmic account. It is not possible to avoid the account. Even I cannot avoid the account that unfolds in front of me.
It is not possible for you to change anything. So what is the point of all the fuss? The other person's deception remains the same; on the contrary, it increases. When you holler and rant, he will think you are worthless and shouting for nothing. This only leads to the other person making more mistakes and to continue ignoring you as being worthless.
Questioner: What is the solution for this?
Dadashri: He should be so impressed by you that he will not employ any deception towards you at all. There is no need for you to use all these other methods. Remain silent instead of becoming angry. Anger is not a meaningful weapon.
Dadashri: I do not make anyone do that. I only ask you to renounce to the extent of my own experiential renunciation, and that too, if you wish it, otherwise I would say, 'Go ahead and get married if you want to.'
If you irritate him by nagging him, 'Don't eat the pickle, don't eat pepper,' then he will get irritated and wish you had not come in.
Do you ever wonder what will happen if you are not around? So then just think as if you do not exist, rather then doing egoism for no reason.
You should just present the doctor's instruction of, 'Don't eat peppers.' Then, to accept it or not to accept, is up to him.
If I had told someone, 'Do it this way,' he would end up doing something completely different. So then I would say, 'What will you gain by doing it that way? Then he will say that he will not do it from now on.
Questioner: Do we have to keep seeing and not do anything if someone is stealing goods through deception?
Dadashri: Anger is not a weapon to use for that. Sit him down and explain things to him. Ask him to think things through. Then everything can be resolved.
Questioner: The doctor has told him he has high blood pressure and that he should not eat certain things. However, he
Instead, if I tell him, "Why are you doing such thing? You are like this and you are like that,' then he will conceal things
