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Questioner: If we try to appease the other person, will it not create attachment (raag) in us?
Dadashri: You do not have to appease them like that. How do you appease a policeman? Does that cause you to have raag towards the policeman?
Questioner: No.
Dadashri: And also there is no need to appease everyone. When someone obstructs your path, then one way or another, appease him and get your work done. It does not take much for them to obstruct your way. Do not complain or make waves if someone's actions hurt you, but instead it is worth settling the situation somehow, and moving on.
robbers that are roaming around; he has no choice. That is interactions of worldly life (vyavahar). Now, there are two kinds of inner intents (bhaav) involved here. The intent of cruelty and hurt should not be there anymore while carrying out your duties. The hurtful intent that used to be there before should not be there now. Secondly, the relative-self (pratishthit atma) should not be 'spoiled, meaning it should not harbor any intent to hurt.' But otherwise, you have no choice but carry out your worldly duty. The policeman too has to perform his duty. Furthermore, repentance and remorse (prashchyataap) should remain in the mind that it would be better if such duties were not to come your way.
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Do Your Duties without the Intent to Hurt
Questioner: If I have to do kashays (anger, pride, deceit and greed) because of my job, or I end up doing kashays because of it; does the Self have any consequence?
Dadashri: No, but you do regret your actions afterwards, don't you?
Questioner: What should I do if I have to do kashays in carrying out my duties?
Dadashri: Your point is valid. If complete, saiyam (state without attachment-abhorrence, without raag-dwesh) does not remain while carrying out your duty, and if someone gets hurt, then in the mind you should have the intent, 'Why does this have to happen through me? It must not happen.' This is the inner intent (bhaav) you should have.
Questioner: But do I not have to carry out my duty? What do the policemen do; do they not fulfill their duties?
Dadashri: You have to carry out your duty; you have no choice. Even a policeman has to go and catch two or three
