Aptavani 06

Author(s): Dada Bhagwan
Publisher: Mahavideh Foundation

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Aptavani-6
[19] Settling a file with Equanimity
Questioner: What is our duty, role (dharma) as human beings?
Dadashri: Our dharma is to see how our mind, speech and body can help people of the world. Run errands for others; give others right understanding through your words, hurt no one through mistakes; that is dharma. Do not hurt any living beings Gjiva). Take a vow to abstain from hurting all living beings; if this is not possible, then take a vow to abstain from hurting human beings. And if you have taken a vow to abstain from hurting human beings, then take a vow, 'Let no living being be hurt through my mind, speech and body.' This is all the dharma you have to understand.
Otherwise, when one gets married, the mother-in-law gives pain and misery (dukh) to the daughter-in-law and vice versa. Thus they bind karma for a life in hell. If a woman is to become a mother-in-law, she must first understand that she should get her son married only if she is willing to lose her son, only if she is willing to let go of him.
Has your 'wishing well' given results? Have your expectations been fulfilled?
Questioner: After taking your Gnan, we feel that we too should flow away just like the holy River Ganges.
Dadashri: Yes, You should flow without affecting (asar) or hurting anyone. It is not possible to hurt anyone and attain the ultimate liberation (moksha). If you hurt anyone, he will throw
his rope and catch you and impede your flow, and if you give happiness to everyone, they will let you go. They will let you go even if you give them just beetle nuts as mouth freshener (paan), a homemade cigarette or even a piece of clove as a mouth refresher. People harbor expectations of getting something from you. How can you claim to be a benevolent person if people did not have expectations from you? All those headed for moksha are kind people. Therefore, you have to show kindness on your way to moksha.
Questioner: People have expectations, but why should we have expectations?
Dadashri: You should not have any expectation (apeksha). It is just that you give them something small, a token like paan-sopari (beetle nut and beetle leaf people use as mouth fresheners in India, and move on. Otherwise, he will hinder you by speaking untruths and ill of you. Therefore, deal with them one way or another and get your work done. People will not let you go to moksha that easily. They will say, 'What is wrong here that you want to go over there! Why don't you have fun with us here?
Questioner: But that is if we listen to them, is that not so?
Dadashri: They will hurt you and hinder you even if you do not listen to them or ignore them. For them, all the four directions are open, and for you only one direction is open. Their directions are a life as a human, celestial, hell or as an animal, whereas you have only one - the path of liberation. So what do they care? They can afford to do hurtful things but you cannot.
Keep everyone pleased. Please them and move on. If someone is staring at you and you tell him, 'How are you Sir?' then he will let you go, but if you do not say anything, he will think that you are very arrogant and start causing problems.