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reason to insult anyone? But these harsh words come forth in order to rid the other person of all his 'diseases'.
What does Kavi say?
'The one, whom Dada calls 'mooah' (mortal)!, becomes ajar amar (ageless and immortal). When dada 'tells off' someone by referring to him as a 'mooah', it will destroy many of his sins. Dada's insult, on the contrary, is a blessing for him.'
Someone may ask, "Why is Dada speaking harshly with this man?" What can Dada do when the man has brought such a vyavahar? Some people are worthless and yet Dada will not raise his voice at them. Does that not tell you how wonderful a vyavahar they have brought? Those who have brought harsh vyavahar with them will experience harsh words from 'us'.
Sometimes at home, 'we' get served tea without any sugar. 'We' drink it without saying a word. Many times even Hiraba (wife of Dadashri) is not aware of this, she will only realize it if she drinks the tea herself. 'We' do not have to say anything as far as the daily activities are concerned. 'We' only have to say anything if something new is being installed in the house, but putting sugar in the tea is routine. It is only today that she forgot the sugar, so what is the need for saying anything. To put sugar in the tea is vyavahar and so if tea without sugar is served, 'we' would understand that that is the vyavahar of the day. Therefore, 'we' would drink the tea without saying anything.
What kind of justice in vyavahar?
Vyavahar is the very thing that creates entanglements and problems everywhere. There is no connection between vyavahar and justice. People look for justice, however justice is not something one should seek or call for. If a mother-in-law mistreats her daughter-in-law, that is vyavahar and it is also vyavahar if she treats her with respect and care. This body (pudgal) would not exist if there was no vyavahar. There will be
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no end to entanglements if one looks for justice in vyavahar (worldly interactions).
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Eleven disciples had vyavahar with Lord Mahavir. If one of the disciples felt slighted, that disciple would not be able to sleep all night. What can the Lord do about that? Why should one be seeking justice in that? If you accept vyavahar as vyavahar then you will understand justice. Why did your neighbor say negative things to you? He did so because such was your vyavahar with him. The words that come out of your mouth are dependent upon your vyavahar with the other person. But you want to go to moksha, so you should do pratikraman.
Questioner: But what happens once the 'arrow' is shot? Dadashri : It is vyavahar dependent.
Questioner: Will such ongoing interactions not create vengeance and enmity?
Dadashri No. That is why we do pratikraman. Pratikraman will not take you to moksha but it is a link with God in the other person to avoid creating vengeance. Vengeance will be created if you are slack in doing pratikraman. Do pratikraman the moment you realize your mistake. Doing so will never create vengeance, even if the other person wants to, because you send a direct message to the God within him. There is no solution or remedy for this worldly interaction. Do pratikraman only if you want moksha. In the absence of knowledge of the Self, if you want to continue to maintain the worldly interactions as the worldly interactions they are, then if the other person curses you, you are to see it as being correct. But if you want moksha, then you have to do pratikraman also, otherwise the other person will bind enmity.
Completion of worldly interaction is the final solution The Lord has said, "There is vyavahar and there is
