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father too takes on the pain in his mind. The Lord says that nature dispenses one pound worth of pain to the child, but the father takes on half a pound of the weight and the mother a quarter. Now if this is not foolishness, then what is it?
this, he is bound to be affected by them. He takes on this pain and if he continues to think negatively like this, it will create a problem even if it was not meant to be. The effect of negative thoughts is an unfavorable outcome. Everything will work out fine if you do not think excessively about things. Whenever you start thinking or worrying, that work is ruined for sure. This is because these thoughts stem from one who has an ego and is therefore independent (nirashrit). It would be a different matter if these thoughts arose in the ashrit (egoless, dependant, e.g. animals).
'We are not a Gnani when you tell me you have a stomachache and 'we' tell you, "You are Atma, are you not?" 'We have to listen to you. But if you complain about not getting clarified butter (ghee) with your rice, then 'we' will not listen to you because that is not suffering
This is a very subtle fact. Whatever misery, pain or suffering there is, there is always a cure for it. It is considered a misery when you have a toothache because you can go to a dentist and get treatment for it or you can have that tooth pulled. What is suffering? It is anything for which there is a solution. Wherever there is no solution, it cannot be called suffering. Here the child has a pound worth of pain, but why does the father take on another half a pound on to himself? Dogs do not cry when their puppies get hurt, they merely lick the wound to heal it. There is a healing power in their saliva. And when the dog gets hurt, it will cry out loudly! These humans however are nondependant (nirashrit), i.e. those who take on doer-ship. They become miserable even when someone else is in pain.
This person says, "That woman said this to me and hurt me." That is not pain because it does not touch him physically. These invited problems are not pain. People take on the burden of pain of their children when their children die, but why do they not accompany them when they die? They will not do so.
One man came to me and told me, "I have a big problem of pain (pida)." 'We asked him what it was and he said, "My wife is going to be delivering a baby." Is the wife having a baby something new? Even cats and dogs have babies, do they not? Even a postman 'delivers' mail. What is so special about having a baby? His neighbor's wife had died during childbirth so he was worried about his wife. 'We explained everything to him and made him understand. 'We gave him a mantra to divert his attention. Otherwise he would become consumed with negative thoughts of the neighbor's wife died during childbirth, what if that happens to my wife too?' If one has negative thoughts like
Gnanis are very wise. They have figured out everything And with the current era of this time cycle being what it is, don't you think that it affects the Gnani too? Do you think the Gnani does not encounter any pain in this time cycle? He does, but the Gnani makes all the arrangements ahead of time. Just as the post office does. In the post office they have cubby holes for sorting the mail: mail for Nadiad, mail for Surat, mail for the office, etc. Likewise Gnani places the pains in appropriate boxes, the box of business, the box of society, the box of office and then goes to sleep with ease.
It is possible to have no pain whatsoever after attaining the Self.
If the ceiling of a cinema collapses, you should be pleased that no one got hurt, and if someone does get hurt then you should be pleased that no one died. You should take comfort and support in this manner.
In our business of construction contracting, if we get the
